Supposed to marry? We had a fight about me not communicating often.....we live miles apart and this year i make a trip to go join him finally after being in a long distance relationship for a nine months. We met on the net and things have been ok up until about a month ago where he always complains i don't email enough....not like he sends mail....yet he know i'm horrible at emails. yet in a weel i call him about three times on a bad week and on a good week i call him every night and talk for more than an hour. He lives in ?Usa and i'm from africa and sometimes the hours are a problem but when i can even after working a night shift i go straight to a cyber to chat him with no sleep at all. Last time we talked he yelled at me for doubting the relationship and prior to that he cursed at me,which i made clear to him i did not appreciate.tried to call him later to make a mend all he said was"ER talk to you later" Have not talked to him in two days,not sure i want in anymore, he scares me
2006-12-11 16:06:05 · 12 answers · asked by strawyanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*** please rethink the marriage. if he's this possessive, and this disrespectful now then imagine how bad it'll be once you're together for awhile.
also, why don't u ponder this thought for awhile "could there be a reason he's not w/ anyone from the US? is there a chance that the people who live by him know what he's like?"
2006-12-11 16:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can. don't even start. To begin with long distance relationship are false, because you don't have any idea about the person until you two live together everyday for at least a year or so.
If you think this is something you need to explore and not yet give up on then one of you need to take time off and spend at least a couple of weeks together in the same place, kind of playing house.
If you fight like cats and dogs then I suggest it's for the best that both of you move on.
good luck.
2006-12-11 16:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like an insecure loser and it's time you found a more practical relationship where the two people are on the same continent at least. Long distance can sometimes work out but you have the makings of a bad marriage right there!
2006-12-11 16:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get better. Trust me...
I sounds like it's too easy for him to make excuses for his irresponsible behavior.
You should never let anyone treat you that way!
Give him time to think things over, but if he doesn't sincerely make the 1st move to get back on good terms w/you consider it lucky that you found out what a real jerk he is before you both got married to each other & just learned then or sometime in the future that you both were not going to get along.
Even if you do set your standards higher; you still gain your self respect(& that to me is more valuable).
:)
I've been in relationships with these kind of people, & sometimes "they just don't get it".
He's not worth your time girlfriend.
2006-12-11 16:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you make quite an effort to have a good relationship. In my opinion, however, long distance relationships are hard to manage... especially when you are so far apart.
Also, I think one trouble with internet relationships is that sometimes people may give off the wrong impression. Your relationship could be completely different online then it is in person.
Personally, I think it would be better to meet someone in person that is closer to you!
2006-12-11 16:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey just stop talking to him. If he wants to be an *** with you living miles apart then just imagine what it would be like if you were together. You deserve someone that will understand that you work and have a life of your own. Not someone that wants to make you obey his every whim and demand. It is probably for the best to just let him go and move on.
2006-12-11 16:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that controlling and agrumentitive and you are half a world apart....I don't want to think about what kind of jerk he would be if you married him and moved to the USA. He is not worth it.....there is someone better out there for you. Good luck.
2006-12-11 16:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh, not something greater helpful than facefighting. that is marvelous how human beings say issues on line (facebook) that they'll possibly on no account say in guy or woman. possibly connect up and have a frank dialogue together with her. I wager there will be no combat.
2016-10-18 03:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by mcfee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting phone abuse than chances are that you are gonna get physical abuse. Why? Do you need that? Hell if you are intrested in getting your butt kicked I know some people that will do it for free and you don't even have to cuddle later.
2006-12-11 16:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by onebadmedic01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very controlling. Now he's playing hard to get?... I would get out. If you are having these doubts now,,get out
2006-12-11 16:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋