How to care for my mother with cancer?

Question

Hi everyone...my mom has been in the hospital (in and out, mainly in) for 5 months due to ovarian cancer and right now she is on TPN and can't eat or drink and is in constant pain. I'm the only caregiver when she comes out and was wondering if anyone has stories of how they coped or tips. I'm really anxious and scared (because the last time she came out, it was only for 12 hours and we had to call 911 it got so bad). Thank you :)

Answer 1

I was 15 when I had to do the same thing that you r going through. It gets harder and harder to watch their pain and knowing that they are worried about how this is effecting u. The key is to cry, scream, swear ( but just not infront of your mum) and then continue on until u need to do all that again. I was lucky in the respect that my mum survived (only just) but 16 yrs l8r she is fine. The only thing i can suggest in regards to caring for her is this...dont fuss so much that u make her feel uncomfortable. Keep in contact with her Dr and try and find a support group within your friends. It will be a long nasty journey that will take everything out of u. Try and find some community group that would be able to help u. Even if its just giving u a couple of hrs off a week or maybe a couple of evening meals. Not much else i can say except my heartfelt best wishes go to you and your mum. Take care xx

Answer 2

It will be hard. You may try contacting Hospice, they may be able to help or give some advice, may refer you to someone. I really not know. My mother had a hip replaced and knee stuff. But, the Hospital or someone sent a lady to help her shower/take a bath. She also, made her bed, I said I could do that, but, she say she would.

Answer 3

hello im so sorry to hear about your mother , my mother passed in 2005 from breast cancer that spread throughout her body dhe was only 50 we actually had hospice come they only came 1x a day and me and my sister took care of her it was hard real hard but we are gifted that we can do that i always put cold rags on her forehead she loved that and played soft music i am not a nurses aid and i help alot godbless !

Answer 4

Lord bless this one Lord and His Precious Mother Lord wrap your loving caring healing hands own His Mother Lord and if it be your will Lord heal Her lord In your name I ask.And fill This wonderful Son with strength and good Will to face what ever it is He comes up against.that He be keep strong Lord and Guide Him in All the directions it is He needs to go.Send Him your Healing Angels Lord and Bless Him through what ever it is He needs are and His Mothers In Jesus Name I ask Thank you Lord for this Blessing...Jesus Loves you and is their for you just call out His name Jesus when in need.Merry Christmas and God bless.Try calling T.B.N Own Christan net work own television for so guidance.Ask for Pat Robinson

Answer 5

you can reach Hospital social service, they can help you for some home health program or long term facility program with skilled nurses
Depend on cancer treatment outcome maybe Hospice program is comfort program for dying people

Answer 6

so sorry to hear about your mom, my died in oct from lung cancer so i understand what your going thru. hospice would be your best bet if you are the only one helping her. i had to help with her baths and going to the bathroom till we called hospice, just keep your chin up and be there for her

Answer 7

What hurts them most is your worries and sorrows. So do not show it in front of her. Keep her occupied and give her something to think about other than how bad you must be feeling.

Answer 8

I am sorry that I can't help you,But good luck to you.Your Mom is very lucky to have a son like you,Good luck.

Answer 9

get this book the cure for all cancers by HUD regrew Clark pH,d,ND