The father to my child left me when I was 7 weeks pregnant. When my daughter was born I called and told him and asked him to come see her. He never came. I had to call and get medical info from him when I found out my daughter has a heart condition. He has never once called to check on her. I don't get child support from him. So my question is how would I go about getting his perental rights terminated? I don't want him showing up when she's 3 or 4 and coming in and out of her life. That will only confuse and hurt her in the long run. Help! What should I do???
2006-12-11 15:45:18 · 10 answers · asked by sdixon319 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am very sorry to hear of your situation because almost the same exact thing happened to me and I know how heart-wrenching it can be to go through all of this and take care of a baby. The father has to sign over his rights to you, or you have to request a court hearing to state reasons why you believe the father should not have rights to the child you two created, and the judge will decide...but I am not sure how you would go about getting a court date for something like this. I do know that a father has to sign over his rights...I know because my ex has shyed away from any responsibility and I am going through the hustle of trying to track him down just to sign papers to give me sole custody. Good luck with everything and hope it all works out, which it will, eventually! You're in my prayers!
2006-12-11 15:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by *mommy to two* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, go to a lawyer and take him to court for that child support. He sounds like a class a jerk. Don't feel guilty about making him take responsibility for his own child. Second I don't reccomend terminating his parental rights just because he is an absentee father. I know what you are saying, but there is clearly nothing to worry about right now. If something happens down the road, cross that bridge when you get there. I could be wrong, but I think most courts are not so fast to terminate parental rights based solely on the parent not giveing a crap. You have to be abusive to have parental rights terminated. I could be very wrong about that. But even if he does have a change of heart down the road, maybe it's not something to be discouraged. Only if you suspect there are alterior motives behind his change of heart should you pursue the termination. Good Luck! I will pray for both you and your child!
2006-12-11 15:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see that you are strong willed and independant and I praise you for that but as for where your child is concerned, even though the father wants to act like a dog running with his tail between his legs when anything threatens to take away his freedom, but legally the law is established to force men to actually be men by commiting to their responsiblity. Collect Child Support, obtain a lawyer and since you can prove that he has choosen to neglect and abandon his responsiblities that will allow you to recieve "sole physical custody" with sole physical custody you will always be the primary household for your daughter until she is 18 even if she does decide to move in with her father when she reaches the rebellious age, and with your love and being the good mother that you are to her, we both know that would never happen. Use the money that you recieve for her for her education, and take a nice vacation every year on her B-Day. You can wait to go on the vacations when she gets older so she can remember them letting her know that her B-Day is a very special day indeed. Good Luck!!! God Speed!
2006-12-11 16:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Bless You for being a strong parent and taking care of your little one. Now, I think you should try the following...
Get an attorney and have them file a petition. He will hav to be served with papers, but I know that since he abandoned you and your baby that you may just need to place a legal notice ad in the paper to inform him if you can't find him. Any judge in their right mind will grant this immediately. If you cannot afford an attorney, call the local Bar Association and ask if they can refer you to an organization who can get you in touch with attorneys who will do this for free or pro-bono. I wish you nothing but the best of luck, I am sure you and your daughter will be fine in spite of this terrible person.
2006-12-11 15:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by amoroushotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get him to sign a declaration that he is giving up all parental rights that is the best way to go. As you are not asking for child support ( which I would do and save towards a college education for your child), he should be more than happy to sign it in lieu of those child support payments. Just a word of caution, one day she is going to want and need to know who her real father is and you are going to need to tell her. It will not be because she doesnt love you, she will need to know who the other half of her is.
2006-12-11 15:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by fancyname 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
File a petition to terminate parental rights with the court.
2006-12-11 15:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chris the all knowing one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really know the answer to your question so am looking at everybody elses answers to...lol... because i am going through something similar... i got pregnant and and broke up before i even found out (about 3 weeks later) he has seen his son once and asked about getting a paternity test... then i never heard anything from him my son is now 17 months old and i think about this alot because i know someday my son is going to have to know... my son sees my husband as his father and doesnt know any different but i know someday ............he'll have to know... the problem i have is my ex's family doesnt believe me ... so anyway!!..lolanyway i never asked or have wanted child support from him ... mainly because i dont want my ex trying to get visitation ect.... and having to go through all that... anyway i feel for you and understand...good luck...
2006-12-11 16:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
verify your state's rules...there are often particular standards that must be met to get his parental rights taken away. yet as quickly as you recognize that's what needs to ensue, you will definately would desire to talk to an attorney to ascertain the place to pass from there.
2016-10-05 05:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's possible to take him off the birth certificate, but I do know if he's not on it he has no rights to her. If he does come around in the future make something up about her not being his, that you cheated on him or something.
2006-12-11 15:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by dolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from your typing. tak him to court and fils on him a unfit ather the courts will look at his past toward his relanship and grant you it by law. my opion?
2006-12-11 15:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋