seriously in need of some help please?

Question

ok so, I started seeing this guy, like dating sort of. and things were really good and everything was going nicely. he broke up with his old girlfriend of about a year about 2 1/2 monthes ago (they broke up and got back together like 11 times during that year). and this last break up, they ended on really relaly bad terms and then now they're friends again. and they talk al the time. and I don't want to be one of those people who are all "you cant talk to your ex blahblahblahvlah' but I don't know. I really don't know what to think. he's sort of backed off lately. and I don't know what to do because I like him. and he liked me. and now I don't know how to act or if I should talk to him or something. what should I do? what shoudl I say to him?

Answer 1

You should talk to him. Communication is a huge part of a relationship. You need to see where you both stand in the relationship (whether it's exclusive, can see other people, are you really dating or not sort of thing).

If you are dating, and not just sort of, you need to tell him how you feel about him talking to his ex. Make sure you let him continue talking to her, but maybe see if he'll fill you in on what it was about, or forewarn you before he does so you don't get upset about it. You wouldn't want one of your relationships to end on bad terms, so you have to respect the fact that they're fixing things to be friends, and hopefully they will both find the closure they need. Just remember that communication is everything. You have to be open about things.

Hope this helps. =)

Answer 2

Dear Julie: The sooner you realize that you are just the "rebound" person, the sooner you Will stand up for yourself and dump him. He is only using you as a cry pillow since he is hurt. Have in mind, by your own admission, that he still sees her and has probably, by now, began anew with her. Even if he tells you that they are broken up for good, it would still be a very bad idea for you to date him since he is only in need of a shoulder to cry on and a piece of butty to pop.
I highly suggest that you dump him at once, move on with your life (since you don't seem to have much of it), and wait for a guy who has no emotional baggage to affect his relationship with you.
I also suggest that you spend your time making something out of yourself instead of waiting for Mr. right. Educated women are far more attractive and successful in life than those who can't spell properly, and there are plenty of them. It is about what kind of leverage you have in this world. If you have little, you will end up marrying some two-time looser and living in the ghetto. I believe that you desire much more in life. Education, my dear, opens many doors. When you love yourself and take care of your own affairs you will come across men with the same mentality. It does take two to tango. Are you willing to dance?
Hoping that you are listening.
Mr. M on "help, please."