What are some ways to spice up a relationship?

Question

My boyfriend and I are kinda in a rut. How can you spice up a relationship? Get the spark back and make it exciting?? And besides spicing it up, what are some sweet things I can do for him?

Answer 1

Ok sweetheart! Here are some suggestions to spice up your relationship. Hope they are useful to you. They were useful to me and my girlfriend :)

When people get in a new relationship, sex tends to be very interesting, but it's tends to get monotonous in the longer run. The best thing then to aim for is to be relaxed and comfortable with each other. You can take the time to get to know each others' bodies - at your own pace - by taking bubble baths together, giving one another massages, lighting candles as these things help to create a relaxing, sensual environment.

Fear and anxiety can be problems in the early days, and the knock-on effects mean a less-than-hot sex life. Picture it - you're both trying to impress each other and so instead of focusing on the action, you're thinking way too much about the possible scenarios that could occur so start communicating with each other and you're in for a lot more fun later.

Another common problem is focusing too much on the "end result" in these early stages. It can also put a lot of pressure on both of you: It's important not to be too goal- or performance-orientated. This way, you can just enjoy the getting-to-know-you process without worrying about the finale, it'll pay off in the long run as you'll feel at ease and have a better sex life as a result. And by the same token, instead of worrying about the "happy ending", invest in a little pre-action action, otherwise known as foreplay. This means you'll get to lavish lots of attention on each other and the build-up is sure to guarantee even hotter action under the sheets.

Bizarrely, it's also crucial to not simply focus on sex all the time. Even in the early stages when that might be all you can think about, make sure you're physically affectionate in other ways. Lots of kissing, holding hands and cuddling up to each other is great for maintaining that sexual chemistry in and out of the bedroom. It's all about setting the foundation so that in your more intimate moments, you really do feel confident and comfortable.

Good communication is also key if you want the relationship to stay fresh and exciting. And if you're too scared to try out new things or speak your mind because you're not sure what your partner would say, then you won't get the satisfaction you want. Just introduce new ideas slowly, whether it's a new position, location or some dirty talk.

Some sweet things that I think can be done for him (I would love them for myself)

Back rubs/massages.
French Kiss.
Whisper to each other.
Skinny dip.
Hold hands.
Buy gifts for each other.
Roses.
Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're together.
Kiss at every chance you get.
Hugs are sweet.
Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
Spend every second possible together.
When in public, only flirt w/ each other.
Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
Public Display of Affection.
Take advantage of any time alone together.
Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.
Do cute things like write I love you in a note.
Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.
Hang out with hisr friends.
Make sacrifices for each other.
Really love each other, or don't stay together.
Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

Sorry for the long rambling. Hope my answer can help you a bit friend :)

Answer 2

putting the spark back? Well depending on your interests and his.Check into his real interests and go someplace he wants togo.You know its not what you do for one anothe,its the way you get there.I have traveled to many places and countries to get that spark back. But even enjoying these trips the real meaning was lost.Remember money doesnt buy happiness or love.It is more the thought behind what you've done for one another.

Answer 3

easy answers....for the first part...find something your not doing and you think you'll both enjoy and do it...if you can't think of anything...do back to when you first starting dating. Send love letters back and forth...call each other and spend hours talking on the phone (even if you live together...each of you go into seperate rooms and call each other...if only one phone...chat online)...leave small thoughtful presents (not expensive...but things from the heart...things you make for each other...)...spend time cuddling and necking without having sex afterwords...again go back to the begining and do the things that made you fall in love with each so that fall in love all over again. As for the nice sweet things you can do for him...think of what you would like him to do for you...body rubs, making favorite foods, cozy baths (while true most men aren't into baths...you'll find he'll be more then eager if he finds out you'll be in there with him) do somethings with him that you're normally not into that you know he is (examples if he is into golf, go with him, if he is more into video games play some with him...etc) You'll find men find the same kinds of things sweet and thoughtful you do.

Answer 4

Send yourself some flowers with a questionable note attached ;)

Once the flowers have spiced things up a bit, a sweet thing you could do is tell him who really sent them :)

Answer 5

poor your favorite condiment on each other. play teacher and student. do it in a car, in the kitchen, get freaky with it!