It's not just lust I'm feeling for the other person - I want to know how to stop myself falling harder for this 'other guy.' I feel awful, I'm not cheating physically but emotionally..
2006-12-11 15:26:08 · 10 answers · asked by axix9 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm trying to figure that one out for myself....i'm not engaged yet, but we have talked about it and i know he wants to marry me someday. my situation is a little more complicated because my bf lives out of state and has to take care of some things before he can move. the other guy lives close by and is a good friend. I'm still not sure what to do. i'm considering breaking up with my bf til i can figure things out, but i don't want to lose him permanently so i just don't know. whatever you decide. good luck.
2006-12-12 11:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many a therapist has told us that the sexual problems are often emotional ones, and the emotional ones are sexual ones in sheep's clothing. Then again, I was with someone for two years in college, best man I ever knew but don't have, and guess what? The guy climbed off his mother's lap at nine months old and never came back for a hug. Didn't matter how I tried to tell him- he just didn't get the whole physical affection thing, and I had to go! So, you may need some help figuring out what's in the way- is it really him? Are there issues regarding sex in your upbringing? Do you have control issues, so that if you let go, you're at his mercy? What about toys? There's never been a man anywhere can do what technology can- but then again, not a toy anywhere that will hold you. So, put the two together, and you may just get it started! No man is going to love you better than the man who will include that for your sake... so ask him!
2016-05-23 07:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to be married. You should step back. Getting married will only make matters worse. Emotional cheating is far more painful that physical cheating to your partner. You should seek counseling and try to find out why you are drawn to another and are unable to commit 100% to your current partner. Maturity (comes with age) and fear would be my two guesses. Good luck, and be careful of the hearts you are entwined with...
Love is not a feeling but an action that takes time to grow. Love takes time to grow...you actually have to work on it to make it better.
2006-12-11 15:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by smwah345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotionally sometimes can be worse than physical
and it happens to most, the fresh new relationship you always get the warm fuzzies, with a life long relationship it can get boring at times, that is why it is important that both try to keep the relationship fresh for it to last
i know that both me and my gf, feel the need to flirt with others, but thats where we both draw the line, i am good with that, she is sort of a jealous freak, but in the end we both know where we are going to end up each and every night
2006-12-11 15:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by seven_ms_man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready for marriage to this man. Those other feelings will never end if you do marry him. Emotional cheating is in your heart and you want your future husband to receive that free and clear.
2006-12-11 15:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw0728 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your fiancee a favor and break it off with him....He deserves someone better...People like you are not doing the other person a favor by staying...He deserves to be with someone that only wants him....If you can not be faithful to him in your thinking...you'll eventually be unfaithful in the physical....Let someone else have him that will love him fully.
2006-12-11 15:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called cold feet.
2006-12-11 15:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is fickle.
2006-12-11 15:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well deal with it or go for it.
2006-12-11 15:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready ..........
2006-12-11 15:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋