how do i do this tonight with out breaking her heart too much and pissing her off too much.
she seems inlove with me and i say i am in love with her but i dont feel in love. any thing i do or say it too make her happy but she does so many things that bug me so it must end.
1 problem this will be the first time i will be on the giving end of the break up and would like to not compleetly rip her heart out like my EXs did to me.
2006-12-11 15:15:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have been telling her that you are in love with her, you are going to devastate and confuse her anyway. It's best to put the break up on your shoulders by telling her that you just don't think you are the man to make her happy and fulfill her future, and you don't want to keep her from meeting the man she is meant to be with. Tell her that you're sorry you're so confused about things, and just don't want to drag her through your "self journey of discovery" or whatever. DO NOT TELL HER YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS. Tell her you love her and don't want to drag her down.
2006-12-11 15:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember tho b4 u do break up with her think about it cause it can be agreat loss for u cause if u (miraculously) want her back later on she has the say," u said good bye" but differently i think when 1 is being punished they need to kno what they are being punished for so my advise is that u tell her all the stuff u don't like and how much it has pissed u off and that u can't take it any more. but if u know in ur heart that she can give a new meaning to BITCHY then jus cut to the chase and 4get the above b4 she finds out what u are proposing and just dump u b4 u can even second thought dumping her! GOOD LUCK (U MIGHT NEED IT)
2006-12-11 23:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by REALITY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something along the lines of; 'I think you're a great girl, and there are a lot of things I like about you. There are also some things that I'm not sure I'll ever get used to. I don't think I can move forward in this relationship any more, but I don't want any hard feelings.'
If she's that smitten with you, it might be best to be brutally honest so she doesn't get the wrong idea.
You know her better than I do.
2006-12-11 23:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel about her and that your relationship with her doesnt seem so real. but let it all out, stay calm when you say it, look into her eyes and stay the same level as her. just if she gets pissed off and starts yelling, dont fight it back just let her do it till she calms down, if she starts crying just hug her and tell her to be happy for you and that the choice you made is the right thing to do. ok well hope you have a nice time. she will find another person that can make her happy.
2006-12-11 23:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by 2hot4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think twice. Do you really don't feel for her? Sometimes, people can't feel love because they are under stress or sadness. If you've thought it properly and your answer is yes, tell her nicely. If she cries & beg you to stay, don't give in. If you give her hope now, it will hurt her more in the future.
The best way to break-up is face to face, at least you can make sure that she doesn't do anything silly till she cools down.
2006-12-11 23:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by christina_160706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, if your not in love with her, dont tell her you are. Theres really no good way to break up with someone, someone always gets hurt and feels like their heart is being ripped out. Your just going to have to do it and hope for the best.
2006-12-11 23:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by gremlin1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her that you have come to realize that you and she are not a good match, and you hope she'll meet someone who is as crazy about her as she is about them.
Don't be ugly or mean...if she asks for specifics, then just be honest and tell her you don't have the same feelings for her as she does for you...
Yeah, she's likely going to be hurt...rejection doesn't feel good...but it's worse to stay in a relationship that's not working and unfair to both people...
Good luck
2006-12-11 23:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you didnt love her you should not have said you did
but people do fall out of love or they never was in love to begin with
just tell her you need some time to be with your self that it is not her it is you tell her that she deserves only but the best and that you want her to be happy and you know that you cant do that for her ..... she'll understand if you put it like that tell that you still want to be friends
2006-12-11 23:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it & get it over with. Be kind. Do it in her home if you can talk to her privately or talk to her in the car. If you're going out with others, wait until you take her home. Tell her you're sorry; you like her but that "special" something is lacking for you.
2006-12-11 23:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
much better if you tell her the truth sooner bec. if you let the day pass then you tell her...much more it hurts... dont expect that it will not break her heart bec. shes in love w/ you... i think you work it slower show to her that your not happy w./ your relationship anymore... maybe she will bwe the one to ask you for a break up...
2006-12-11 23:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by nic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋