I am a 14 year old girl. The guy I like will be 18 in about a month. The feeling is mutual. I am falling in love with him. He's the most amazing guy I have ever known. He helps me through my problemsHe makes me laugh and smile like nobody else can, not even my best friend. We have a lot of the same interests, listen to the same music, have many of the same hobbies, and share many mutual close friends. A lot of people assume we are dating or think we should. They ask us all the time if we're going out, yet. We are in a program in which we are both committed to. We had to promise to abstain from drugs, alcohol, and any sexual behavior. We have decided that if we were to date, we would not do anything more than make out. My brother doesn't like him. My mom likes him, but I don't think she would like me to date him. My dad hates that I date period. He doesn't have his license, so there's no risk of bein alone in a car. we REALLY want to date, but he wants my parent's okay. what do i do?
2006-12-11 15:05:26 · 12 answers · asked by BrokEn DrEam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well get your Dad's approval first...then date him. If you can't get his approval just be friends until you become older.
2006-12-11 15:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rock n Roll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 14 year old girl should not be dating an 18 year old guy. Period. Listen to your dad. He knows what it is like to be an 18 year old guy - and YOU DON'T. You can save yourself a whole boatload of grief if you stay in your own age group for a while. If "Brad Pitt" is still around in four years, look him up. In the meantime, have some 14-year old fun and enjoy your young life. You'll never be there again and you'll wish that you hadn't tried so hard to grow up so fast if you date this guy.
2006-12-11 15:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you both are already as close as you can be without the dating. What difference does the dating make other than the making out? Wait. Wait until your parents ok it or the situation somehow changes to allow you to date. If you are meant to be together, it will happen. I know it might be hard, but have patience. Wait it out. It will be worth it.
2006-12-11 15:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anima Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a very young girl,yes girl. be very careful there are emotions and harmones at work that can quickly get out of hand,not to mention the leagal matters at hand. if you care for this guy would you want him to get into trouble with the law.i hate to say it cause i was once young but this is the time to listen to what your mom has to say. sit her down and talk to her like she is your best friend.just because she says something you don't agree with or do not want to hear. if she is a good mom she has your best interest at hand. also she has been young before you have not been old yet,listen to her wisdom,it comes from experience. good luck,these next few years can shape your whole future.
2006-12-11 15:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you BOTH want to date, then he needs to take a bold step and be brave with your family. Your brother doesn't run your life, its really his responsibility to keep an eye out and have your back. At 14, no one on here can tell your parents how to parent. At best, we can all wish him luck talking to your parents. He needs to really prepare and think about why he thinks that you two dating is a good idea. It really comes down to selling your parents on the idea. If they say no, he needs to be gracious... "I understand your decision, and thanks for hearing me out." If he can do this sincerely, you might be dating this guy before you both are another year older. Please be careful though, a moment of weakness can lead to a lifetime of regret.
2006-12-11 15:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a very proper guy in wanting your parent's okay first. Invite him over for dinner more often or just a family sit around to let the family get to know him better. I know it is a kind of cheat to you if it is more family involved that personal, but this will hopefully change the mind of your father. If he is interested in sports and so is your father, maybe invite him and they can sort of bond over a game. Keep in mind though that each of you have times in your life ahead of you that will effectuate change.
2006-12-11 15:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by blapip23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i am in the same boat i am 13 to and in love with a 17 year old so i think that its ok and i wish you all the best of luck in the world and every thing happens for a reason so just have fun
2006-12-11 15:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by minda marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to follow your own feelings and not what everyone else wants second of all age is not the biggest issue theres nothing wrong about being with someone who is older than you as long as you let them know how you feel and what you expect of the relationship and don' tdo anything other than what you feel your ready for.
2006-12-11 15:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by fa0099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like he is a great guy if he is willing to wait and not go further than making out.... he deserves resoect for that... and that's great that he is giving you that respect.... I think that you date too. I recommend bringin him for dinner and just get him and your parents to meet at a more personal level, get to know each other.... get him involved in your family. and if he is a great guy and is a good prospect, and has goals for the future they will like him too and give you the okay to date. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-12-11 15:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont go out wit him until your parents say ok cuz then if he or your parents find out then your really screwed but mybe its better to hold of o the relationsip until your dad is cool wit dateing and your mom sees you like this guy and well your bor dont worry bout him nobody ever listens to there bro there just over protective
2006-12-11 15:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋