Here's the deal... I just finished a mutiple year recording session. I recorded all the music and half the vocals. My last long relationship ended horribly so I decided to choose to be single until I developed my career and acheived my goals. Now that I have done that, I feel that I have "lost my touch". I'm completely at a loss when it comes to the dating scene. I have a lot of great qualities that women compliment me on all the time, but I still feel like I'm begging when I ask for a number or date. I am confident and attractive, but when I go to ask, I start to fall apart. I blame it on my ex because she made me feel worthless, and she was model material. Can someone please help me?!
2006-12-11 15:03:26 · 16 answers · asked by youdontneedtoknowme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmmm! My bet is you are just fishing! I like your style!LOL
So now a man answers your query! If it is true what you are saying and not just a pick-up line then dude it really happens. We, men, love to focus on our careers and end up with nothing! That's why later on in our lives we buy expensive sports cars, yachts etc. just to prove to the whole world that we have it already and we are a good lay,Correct?
Don't lose hope! You didn't say how old you are but my guess is you are still young. It is just a stage you are in. Styles have changed and you just have to hone it a bit. You were a diamond now you're a rough. You were the ship and now you're barnacled. All you have to do is hit the scene again. Call up friends and hook up with new ones.
Now that you have money it is not hard to get yourself a girl. Now don't flaunt your wealth so much or you will just end up with a user bxxtch and not a wife material. You have good qualities use em.
2006-12-11 15:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be confident and feel worthless in the same breath. The first thing you need to do is quit thinking about the ex. Not every person of model character is like her. Maybe you can start with lunch dates, once you feel comfortable ask her out for an evening.
2006-12-11 15:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by g49joeybethl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE. Read back your question. The answers are all there. #1. Perhaps there's a tad of pomposity in what you say you accomplished? (Excuse.) #2. "I have a lot of great qualities..." DO you? #3. "I am CONFIDENT &..." If you were truly confident, you wouldn't "fall apart." #3. "I blame it on my ex..." There are so many excuses & contradictions & rationalizations, it makes even MY head spin, & I've seen a lot. No one can make you feel worthless. At this point, I certainly couldn't help you. You need to help yourself, & the best start would be to look very, very carefully at your own words.
2006-12-11 15:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame your ex...nobody can "make" you feel anything...it's your choice...if she thought you were worthless or told you that, it was your choice to agree with her or not...why would agree? Only someone with low worth themselves, would attempt to influence someone else into thinking that they are...
So what if she was model (looking) material? She doesn't sound like much of a person..
Decide you are a person of value...as much value as anyone else...get your confidence and self esteem back...confidence is very appealing...a less than average looking guy can draw people like flies, if he's got good confidence and a good personality...
...a super good looking guy with no confidence and mediocre personality may get some glances, but not much more...
2006-12-11 15:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of women are you wanting to attract? It may be in the women you are running after that make you feel like you're begging. Try to find a simple, down to earth kind of woman. Also friends are great references.
2006-12-11 15:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. But just remember this. You probably didnt beg your first girlfriend to go out withyou, right?
So what makes you think you should now? Sometimes it just takes time to get over these things, ya know? But i have faith in you. Keep trying and know that A lot of girls would be lucky to have you, you just need to find the right one
2006-12-11 15:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by *♥Jinx♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be the one to help yourself. If you are successful, confident, attractive, it shouldn't be too hard. Just be yourself, don't try to act like you're sooo cool or all that, just be friendly and easy going. Where are you meeting girls, maybe you need to change where you look. Forget about your ex and how she made you feel that's irrelevent.
2006-12-11 15:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by BereaGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its that way 4 me 2 i just stared my 2 year and so my boy friend was cheating on me with his best friend chase and so now i am just misrabel i have a pounding head ake that doesnt go away when i sleep and i've been crying alot but when you find that speacial someone youll know trust me youll know!!;)
2006-12-11 15:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she prabably did not diserve you.but try droping suttle hints maybe she will make the first move. and do not wearr sunglasses or a hat let your self go do things like you were young. feel young again . build your self confidence.
2006-12-11 15:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by ~**casandra**~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're begging, you're going to look like you're begging.
Confidence is hot. So muster whatever you've got ... and good luck!
2006-12-11 15:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by some chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋