what do you do when the guy your with for 12 years mom hates you?

Question

for 12 years I have put up with this womans BS but he moved back home 2 years ago and now its worse If i call she hangs up on me or tells me he isnt home. If i show up their she screams at me and no i dont no why Idont want him to choose between us i just want him to make her stop .she doesnt have to like me What should i do

Answer 1

This sounds so familiar to me...
When I first met my husband; His Mother did not want us together....SHe wanted him to stay with his x-wife...She was already his x-wife before I came into the picture...So I was not the reason that they got a Divorce....
But his Mother thought that she could just make him get back with her because they had a 3 year old son...
BUT- I am not going into all the details about us ...
I will tell you this sweetie---------If he truely LOVES YOU;
Then he will deal with his Mother.......My husband stood up to his parents and told them flat out that --THIS IS THE WOMAN I LOVE
and IF YOU DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT HER -then YOU DON'T HAVE TO ACCEPT ME EITHER...
He stood up to them and it made me feel like I was on top of the world......He said we were moving and there was nothing they could do about it - because he had to make his life decisions
and live his life and no body can do it for him........That was 28 years ago..................SO if I were you -I would have a talk to him and tell him to make up his mind ...Either cut the cord that connects him to his mother, cause he is old enough to feed hisself now...Or just let his mama take care of him for the rest of his life -BUT WITHOUT YOU !!!!
Stay clear of her so she will not have anything to use against you...But if she does come around - just be you and be nice ---don't throw stones...Cause after all that is his Mother....

Answer 2

I think the moms being over protective she probably doesnt like you ,but that should not matter ,what matters is if the son likes you , then the mom opinion shouldnt count. To behonest not all parents will like who there children chose to be with. I would not let the mom stop you from being with the guy. Talk to him and tell him what the situation is . He should understand. Don't worry about the mom. It sounds like she needs some help , or maybe some counsling. She should understand the her son is happy with you and she should just except the fact that he wants to be with you. Its his desion not hers. You can't win them all.What her sons wants and choses to do with his life is what counts. Hopefully this helps.

Answer 3

If you want to continue in this relationship your boyfriend is going to have to make his mother at least be courteous to you.

She doesn't have to like you and you don't have to like her.

I wouldn't try to be a part of their family and I would stay away from her as much as possible.

The real answer to this problem lies with your boyfriend.

Answer 4

Sounds like she does not want to share her son...tell him to get a cell phone so you dont have to call her line and one day she will grow up and learn to respect you_

Answer 5

try to talk to her ask her why she hates u. Try to talk to him about whats happening and if he does nothing to solve the problem then just leave him at least u know u tried to work it out.

Answer 6

Tell your boyfriend to get a new mobile phone so you can call him or get him to more to another place.

Answer 7

make an annomous phone call to the cops,tell them shes a drug dealer...get even.

Answer 8

talk to her and ask her why she don't like you. you and her need to sit down like adults and talk it out. don't go to her house and let him come to you. good luck

Answer 9

tell him your problem... convince him to talk to his mom... or get him to move in with you.

Answer 10

You should confront him and her.