Disappointed?

Question

This is my first year at college, and I just found out that I bombed a test and flunked the class I studied really hard and not the night before. My dad is going to upset with me, and I really hate to disappoint him. My other classes are fine. What is a way I can about telling him without ripping my head off. I already feel like a loser as it is. I don't need rude comments. Thanks.

Answer 1

Please don't be so hard on yourself. Parents often try to push "perfection" on their kids. I have seen kids near their breaking point and chose self destructive ways that eventually harmed them, then tell their parents they failed a class. I am a parent and I could never do that to my child. I believe a good education is very important and I expect my son to do his best. We talk about anything and everything and when he is having trouble with a subject either I try to help him or I get him a tutor because I don't know everything either and I have failed classes in the past. Your parents need to remember when they went to school and I can assure you they failed some classes as well. I suggest you tell your dad that you tried your best. If he gets mad, well let him get mad. Allow him to get it off his chest. Don't answer him back, especially if he is yelling because people don't "listen" when they are in that mode. Once he is calm, let him know that you studied and yet you still didn't pass. Ask him for his opinion and ask for his help.
Please, you are not a loser. You are in your first year of college and there are a lot of adjustments you have gone through so far and the pressure can be insurmountable.

Answer 2

first. You're not a loser. Everyone who has been to college should understand the transition you're going through on your first year. be straight with your dad; tell him much of what you've told us. Be sure you let him know you know he has the right to be upset; you're upset too, but that you tried your best and you intend to try to do even better next time. That's what the college learning process is all about.

Then, get in touch with the professor/instructor. Explain that you studied, you tried to be as prepared as you could for the test; but for whatever reason it went poorly and was not a true reflection of what you learned. Check to see if there is anything you can do to bring your grade up, now after the fact.

Work out a plan so that this doesn't happen again. Look out for study groups. Stay in contact with your professors from the start (a big networking plus). If you need a private it tutor, tell Dad you think it might be worth it.

Parents just want to know you're taking the opportunity seriously. Check Abraham Lincoln, a failure throughout his life. Remind yourself and your Dad that you learn a lot more from your bumps and bruises than you do from your metals and ribbons. You may have to buckup and take the class over.

Don't lose sight of what you're learning and taking in. Take care.

Answer 3

First off you are not a loser... I do not know anyone who is good at everything... So get that looser thing out of your head.... your in college and that is saying alot... first off tell your mom first... my son is the same way he wants his dad to be proud of him...

Well I have a son who is in college and he didn't pass a class this time. So yes he will have to take it over again. I know some parents get all upset and lay heavy on the adult child who made a bad grade especially if the parent is paying for the classes... But the way I look at it... As long as my son does his best then that is all I as a parent can ask for... life is not easy and just mark this class up as one that you are going to have to take over. but one thing that you can do the next time around. If you see that you are not going to make decent grades in a class then drop out of it in the first couple of weeks that way the grade will not count against you.. also maybe the professor wasn't someone who could hold your interest in the class and you just may need to get a different professor next time. You have to look at the classes you did pass... Hurray Hurray... Way to go... Like I said life is not easy and as long as you do your best that is all a parent should ask for... But do think about the reason why you didn't pass the class. Was it the work, the professor, or lack of interest in the subject.. then figure out what would be the best way to deal with the class the next time around...

Well I'm proud of you myself... Way to go on your other classes.

Answer 4

Explain that you tried and what your goals are. Explain that its not how bad you did on this class but how you did on the whole. I don't know your parents but having a couple of kids of my own I can say that its way more important to me that my kids are trying than the actual grade and nobody is expected to do perfect in every class they take. Maybe this class just wasn't for you and thats O.K. I'm sure he'll be happy with the rest of your classes so try to focus on your sucesses and not your one failure.

Answer 5

Just tell him.I repeated several classes before finally getting my diploma..so I know what you mean.Either you go talk to your teacher to get a second chance if that is possible that is,if not be frank.Your dad could be angry and much more but it's the end results that counts.
Good Luck

Answer 6

ask your teacher for a retest. and redo the way you study your courses. Join a study group, or plainly pick a new way to learning what you need to know. As for your dad tell him that you did the best you can do, and it's only one test, there will be more to come in the future.

Answer 7

Don't worry about it. I think you are more stresse because you scared that you will dissapoint your father rather than you are dissapointed with your results. Just tell you father that you had tried your best, and you would try harder next time. Just be positive. You can't expect to have a good grades all year. You can always try harder next time. Just don't let stress get all over you. What's done is done. Get over it.

Answer 8

start off with the good news. tell him that despite your best efforts of studying you "bombed" a test. Explain to him that you're working hard and that you hate to disapoint him. Guilt and relativity are powerful things.

Answer 9

Why do you feel like a loser if you honestly did the best you possibly could? Hasn't your father ever told you the same thing?

Answer 10

Honesty is the best policy. There's nothing wrong about telling the truth. Tell him exactly what had happened and never allow fear to keep you from telling your dad. Maybe he will understand.