I really like this guy, we're pretty much alike and we like to go out and have fun together. The thing is that when we started talking neither of us wanted a serious relationship. we decided to be friends with benefits with the time I started developing feelings for him but never said anything cause I thought he didnt want a relationship. About 2 weeks ago he told me about this chick that he's been talking to, she's out of town and they havent met, they met in chat. he told me that he really liked her and that they were thinking about starting a reltionship but that he didnt know if to accept or not cause of me. After he told me that I decided to tell him how I really feel about him and he told me he really likes me too. But that he had a lot to think about. Now, he also told me his ex called him and that he wasnt sure about who he has stronger feelings for. the thing is that for some reason when he told me about that "chat chick" it made me jealous as hell but not about his ex.
2006-12-11 14:38:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently the x is of no real concern or threat to you however the "chat chick" is. Being jealous is a normal feeling. Allow your friend time to sort his feelings out.
2006-12-11 14:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sometimes so hard to sort out what is really going on.
One thing I have learned is that I don´t like to manipulate women, but when they are jealous they become so much more sexual. If there is another woman hanging around, a girlfriend becomes empassioned and the sex is fantastic. Women are far more turned on by jealousy than say horniness. So what does one do?
If your boyfriend is a player, this situation in one form or another will continue in order to get the best loving out of you.
If he is not a player, it is over to him.
You are in a good space. You are the incumbent. His most recent sex was with you. Your smell is on his fingers.
And you will leave him if he chooses one of the other two. He knows this. People are pyschologically more likely to persevere with what they already have than to risk it all for something new. This is strong for you as well.
Why not give him space to consider his feelings. It could be that he will decide after some time out that it is more fun continuing with you. But be careful not to demand a higher level of commitment. Just by agreeing not to pursue the others is a big jump up for him, so don´t push it or he might back out thinking you are too demanding. This may send him back to the girlfriend or towards something new.
2006-12-11 14:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's sitting on the fence. He wants to remain non-commital so that all of his options will be open. It's not love. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve with this guy because he isn't giving you any reason to believe that his feelings for you are any stronger than they are for the other two women.
2006-12-11 14:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is by no one's definition love. If there is any doubt in his mind at all that you're not the one, he's just struggling with who he thinks is the better shagger. You shouldn't think of him as anymore than a casual fling. He obviously doesn't think of you as anymore than that. Have fun with this guy but save your love for somebody who will appreciate it and cherish you for the rest of your life.
2006-12-11 14:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by La 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People enjoy making others jealous as it gives them power love yourself and lust in your mind only and you will find happiness
2006-12-11 14:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LUST. if he really cared for you he would not be talking to another girl. find another guy and stop having sex with him and talking to him if he gets jealous than he cares for you he don't love you.
2006-12-11 14:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Babycakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not love honey move along and don't waste your time you can stay friends w/o benefits but have time apart first
2006-12-11 14:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by marion r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its a start of love.But it's not the same for him.Just leave it.Be his friend.
2006-12-11 14:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kaushall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont pressure him cuz i learned that pushes them away.i guess leave it up to him.tell him and give him his time.if things are ment to be hell come around.take care...
2006-12-11 14:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by amandas1216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... how did you feel when he told you he was thinking about seeing another girl? if you felt horrible then you love him...
2006-12-11 14:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋