I try to be friends with every one, i'm not fat and i'm not ugly. I am nice to everyone that is nice to me. But i am really shy around anyguy i like, it would be alot easier if guys aproached me.
(please help)
2006-12-11 14:35:54 · 16 answers · asked by Eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you find the answer, please email me and let me know. You sound so much like me! I'm just not sure what guys are looking for these days, so I mostly stay to myself. I rarely ever date. Maybe we could stand to open up more? Maybe we could stand to trust more (in the face of previous hurt)? Maybe we could make the best out of this time to get to know ourselves? I don't know, but the holidays sure are hard when you don't have someone special. So lemme know how it goes.
Good Luck.
2006-12-11 14:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eva I am a mother of five girls, ages 32 to 22, They are all drop dead gorgeous and very successful in their lives. I don't know your age. But if you like a guy, try talking about something that you are really good/confident about. This way you will be sure about what you are saying. Or you can trying going on group dates, and then when others in the group talk about something you can join in the conversation. Be a good listener also find out his interest and look the subject up on the Internet to become an expert in that subject. Don't give up your entire personality over to other people, your shyness is a virtue also.
2006-12-11 14:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just late bloomers, meaning they don't really find anybody right for them until later in life (and I don't mean like when you're 50, just maybe in the later teens and twenties). The guy that really wants you will not hesitate to approach you. But if you want to meet more guys now, try bringing one or two of your friends around in a casual situation so that you can relax and show off your beautiful personality better.
Most of all, don't worry that you don't have a boyfriend now. I bet you're just like 14 or 15. You should realize that it's much better to wait for the mind-blowing relationship you'll have later instead of the mediocre immature guys you'll get now.
2006-12-11 14:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by La 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and don't try so hard. If you see a guy in class whom you have something in common with, like you both like the same book, see if he's friend material. Bring up something he might of liked about the plot or character. Once you're comfortable with being friends with a guy, he might have a friend who you might want to get to know better or another opportunity might come up.
2006-12-11 14:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bluebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whose says there's something wrong with you? Gain some confidence around anyone of the oppisite sex and believe in yourself. Remember that looks and weight aren't everything, and there's someone out there for everyone.
But I totally understand what's going on... I'd love a boyfriend.
2006-12-11 14:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by kttm :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't often pick up on our subtleties. Just invite them to do something and be a little more direct than you might normally be, it is the best way to get it across if you like someone. Good luck!
2006-12-11 14:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll start with being conceided!!! What does ugly and or fat have to do with not having a boyfriend. Maybe the guy can sense the same thing I can....you are so vain and you are afraid that they will see that too.
2006-12-11 14:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound like there are any problems preventing you from getting a guy. Just start making small talk and they will catch on that you are interested in them.
2006-12-11 14:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Someone will come along and sweep you off of your feet. No sense in pushing anything because you usually find the wrong person that way.
2006-12-11 14:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, how old are you?
secondly, not everything is about being ugly or fat...
thirdly, confidence is a large contributor to whether you are shy around people, regardless of their gender.
gain some confidence, and then maybe your situation might change.
2006-12-11 15:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋