My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. Because we live close and are both night owls we started to hang out at night (Nothing sexual)Well we got caught sneaking out to hang one night and ever since that time his mother has been on my case. Calling me a bad influence and such.never the less, his mom “banned” him from seeing me.(we attend the same HS and have the same Colleges classes )(early college edu.) We refused to do that, and instead pretended like we broke up. Eventually his mom found out and called his dad (who btw has not been in his life since he was 4 but now all of a sudden wants to be a “father”). His dad has been telling him I am trash etc and to dump me. My boyfriend refused and so his family is threatening to put a restraining order on me simply because they do not like mme simply because they do not like me dating their son. I am at a lost on what to do.(Last night, his father tackled him and slapped him across the face because he told him he loved me)
2006-12-11 14:21:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhm idk really know but u know we're kinda opposite, im 16 my bf's 18. yeah but i think if u're brave enough, talk to his parents like all of u should. hmm. that's what i would do if get in a situation like yours. hope u still have a good realtionship!!
good lucK!
2006-12-11 14:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by crimson_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a little cool into all of this see each other at school and maybe a little afterwards or before. If they parents think that you have cooled things down it may settle down for a while.
I don't know what their problem is but I think they the adults really should take a chilll pill for the moment
Its not like either of you are doing something wrong.
You have not tired to influence his life in some way that is not respectable. and he can make decisions on his own.
Don't push the matter for a while . being sneaky is what is happening and maybe in time both of you can do things in the open but for the moment keep things at a slower pace.
After all there is school and parents are not there.
During lunch you can be with each other and maybe some after school time.
What is it that the parents seem to think that is wrong with hanging with each other.
Is there something that they think that isn't so maybe they could give him a few ideas as to why?
Wishing you all the luck
2006-12-11 22:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he 16 or 18? how old are you may I ask? you sound young so I think your probably both experiencing things and both being adventurous and that is alright there is nothing wrong with that. You both obviously care about each other. What does your parents think of this situation? His parents are probably worried that he may get you pregnant. The best thing to do is prove to them that you are a mature adult, and start being reliable. Don't hang around late at night with him. Always be honest to your parents and his, they will respect you for that. If you lie to them you will give yourself a bad name. so try not to lie even if it is white lies. Just try to be with him gradually and when his parents start having trust in you and know that you are responsible and not a bad person they will start being ok with you. I don't think they can stop you seeing there son depending on how old he is. I think they are most worried about that you hanging around late at night and they might think you are a bit of a... (even though you said you aren't) and they are worried he is going to screw his life up by getting you pregnant. They just want the best for there son and his future which is fair enough. Just show them you are responsible and that you can be trusted and just go about it slowly.
2006-12-11 22:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to move on unless YOU as an adult want to be charged with contributing to the deliquincy of a minor. That will be the next step his parents CAN take against you and since YOU are an adult I would say the charges would stick. That would give you an arrest record that you will have to report and expalin on every job application you fill out for the rest of your life.
2006-12-11 22:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a minor and you should probably back off. Wait until he turns 18 and then you two can do whatever the hell you want. Are you telling me that he is the only guy for you the rest of your life??? Let him be a teenager and move on. You have to try and be the adult here.
2006-12-11 22:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like there's much you can do... I guess both of you can try to stick it out and see if his family lets up, but that's risky. Maybe you guys should just wait until he is 18 and then go from there. It's a tough situation, I can't think of any better advice. Sorry.
2006-12-11 22:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his parents can TRY to put a restraining order on you but they will fail miserably because since he is 16 he can make a lot more decisions in life so he could also file child abuse on his father, as well as his mother for verbal abuse. So if they try to put the restarining order on you you should file child abuse on his parents (if he wants to). Also you can wait 2 years (i know that is harder than it looks but it is a simple solution).
2006-12-11 22:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to hide your story more until he gets 18.If you both truly love each other.
But beware..sometimes when people gets pusghed from all sides..they tend to develop emotions which might be taken as love but which isnt as soon as the pressure goes away so does the emotions..be sure that it is love.
If it is..then wait do chats on yahoo..just keep in touch..
2006-12-11 22:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kaushall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two had better cool it until he's 18. Since you're already 18, YOU could get in legal trouble if his parents want to get really nasty - even if you didn't do "anything".
If you really love each other, it can be put on hold for a couple of years.
2006-12-11 22:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are so close in age, it probably doesn't matter.
I don't know why they seem to have this animosity against you. From the way you talk, you sound like a pretty nice, level-headed girl to me.
2006-12-15 18:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since he is still a minor and living at home with his parents, he really can't do nothing, If you two really love each other it will last until hes of age. find someone who is closer to your age, and if it was meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-11 22:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋