I am a 16 year old African American and I often masturbate daily. I actually do it as soon as I get home from school each day when I have the house to myself. I am just wondering sometimes I feel guilty because all my sexual fantasies are usually of my female pretty classmates, the popular blondes and brunettes. I live in a white suburb and these are the prettiest girls in the school. I usually just come home each, get naked, and go to my bedroom and go to it on my bed with baby oil. I really feel weird sometimes because I usually fantasise about these girls wearing a tee shirt bending over showing me their rump. I totally feel like I am treating these girls like sex objects in my fantasies. I even masturbate to celebrities also but again, its usually a girl like Jessica Simpson bent over in a short skirt with no panties or just a t shirt.
Is there anyway not to feel guilty? Is it ok to treat women like that
2006-12-11 14:21:39 · 18 answers · asked by eastwood1870 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Its a normal male thing.
2006-12-11 14:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure that that is totally normal behavior by all means. Girls really aren't grossed out by it (I'm not). Does some of the guilt you feel come from the race difference? The attitudes you were raised with might be making it difficult for you to accept your behavior...this is just a wild guess, so please don't read too much into it. But yes, women are fascinating creatures deserving of respect, and we like to masturbate and fantasize about sex too. Respect is much more of an issue in terms of verbal and physical abuse, and also more mundane issues like valuing time together and making occasional sacrifices for the other person, so long as it stays in balance with giving and receiving.
2006-12-11 14:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a girl, I say oo-kaay...but as an understanding woman I say this:
Being simply of a man's nature, masturbating is natural as so is having sexual intercourse with a man or a woman. Maybe a little bit different (since you don't have in front of you, a REAL woman)...Fantasies exist. Even if its just in your dreams, you make it seem real by picturing them as if they were there, as you give yourself pleasure on your own. A man needs it. I think its better for you to masturbate, and keep on fantasizing about these girls, rather than go out with each one of them, and sleep with each one behind their backs, just so you'll know how it'll feel like with each one of them....you know what I mean?...because women are NOT sex toys that can be used and be manipulated as however the man wants her for himself....Now as for them being "white"....practically no problem at all...everyone is entitled to "taste" a different "flavor" other than their own...let me translate a better way...lol....Say I am Italian, I see Italian men everyday just like you see African American women everyday, and then every day of your life, other races of beautiful men (or women..in your case) keep appearing and appearing....and it gets to a point were you can no longer hide your craving needs....so I guess that is what gets loose after you come from school, and go ahead and masturbate in your bed...Don't let it affect you in any way...just keep in mind that the "real feeling" will soon come!...*wink* ...be a respectful gentleman, and never 'rushing' enough...and women will fall at your feet...just don't be a freakin' Prince Charming wannabe, or some fake Smooth Operator...deal?...:)
2006-12-11 14:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is very normal and I don't know anyone that don't fantasies about something or someone that turns them on. Its okay, Its a part of life. Heck I'm married and my husband satisfies me completely but I still find myself in the mood sometimes when he's at work and I masturbate and I think of several different men,and sometimes even women together, Not just my husband. Don't feel ashamed. It's just part of life.
2006-12-11 14:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Missy S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness!! Honey, that is TOTALLY NORMAL!!! Every guy, of every race and ethnicity, is doing the same exact thing!! As for your fantasies, it doesn't get any more normal than that!! You have absolutely no reason to feel guilty! I'm just smiling and shaking my head here... I wonder what made you feel guilty! (And you're NOT treating women poorly in any way!!!)
2006-12-11 14:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by F 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are not harming anyone. Everyone does it, everyone pretends they don't. If you feel a little obsessed with it try exercising and socializing more somehow, join a team or a club. If you aren't depressed and isolating too much you are ok. Sounds normal to me!
2006-12-11 14:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by mary e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could supply some pictures of these attrative ladies from your school. Oh and the whole guilty masterbate thing is normal. To stop feeling guilty you could stop masterbating.
2006-12-11 14:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's practically normal... so long as you don't do anything stupid like raping that pretty girl...or treating your girl friend as JUST a sex object. let's just face it that relationships revolve on sex but NOT totally on it.... it should be based on love not on sex.
if you feel guilty despite the advice that we are giving you... try to control yourself... self control is what seperates us from animals...just remember it and you'd be ok.....
2006-12-11 14:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by AtsirkEiram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you don't act out with these girls - it is normal to picture a pretty girl while masterbatig . you are at the age that masterbating is very normal,not to mention it's safe sex.! for example - men buy playboy books for the purpose of getting a sexy woman in their minds to masterbate to, so as long as nobody knows your secret honey - you are safe all by your self
2006-12-11 15:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by charlse c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its just a fantasie. No one is getting hurt. Baby oil sucks you need somthing better.
2006-12-11 14:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by joey g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋