At 35, I feel like I haven't had much success in life. I'm bi polar, and have tried every drug out there.None work! I try to get help from doctor's and all they care about is the money not me. I dont know what to do anymore. I'm just not HAPPY. How can I change these down feelings?
2006-12-11 14:06:35 · 13 answers · asked by someoneyoudontknow 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
"Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have". Every single person out there has felt like a loser at some point in their lives, whatever the cause. Some won't remember the feeling, more will deny it. Ever heard the quote "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world"? Try to find a good friend that you enjoy talking with, they know your personality better than I. The better people know your situation, the more they can help.
Try some new doctors! I know lots of situations that doctors don't do anything about. As for the drugs.... "A person who aims at nothing is sure to hit it". You can't have possibly tried EVERYTHING!!! Ask another question, in the health section, maybe something like, "I am bipolar and need drugs that WORK!" Someone is bound to come up with something. In the meantime, "The moment you doubt yourself is the moment you fail to succeed". You can pull through any ordeal! "In order to succeed, you must be willing to fail".
Yet, congradulations! You are a rare case, and for two main reasons. One: you recognize that you are not happy and are trying to do something about it. Two: you are not trying to kill yourself over this. One thing I try to change any bad feelings is going to a web site called neopets (www.neopets.com). It seems to be for younger people, but I know a lot of people in their thirties! It is a wonderful site to talk about your troubles and make friends. If you decide to join, (it is FREE) and you want to talk to me, neomail vballaggie.
"ACHIEVING STARTS WITH BELIEVING!!!"
2006-12-11 14:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by HP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn that frown upside down!!!
Okay so I've probably already made a bad impression. I know someone exactly like you, and remember your not alone. My buddy is the same way. She never comes out of her house (literally) and when she does it frightens her. She's a real cool person except for when the bi-polar kicks in. But if anything i completly get you. My life is pretty pathetic. I don't have ANY friends, I have no boyfriend, I'm not smart, and I don't go out partying, I'm childish, and I know people find me anoying.
So don't worry, trust me. When you feel down just remember that at that very moment there are people in the world who feel worthless just as well.
2006-12-11 14:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by pandora sin llama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know how many people out there in this world has had the look and have had a bf or gf and all of a sudden their world just becomes nothing? Im talking about these girls who are like celevrity looking and have a drug or alcoholic problem and they have to struggle in life and all seem like they are happy, but they are not. so you are one of the luckiest people in this world to have 2 legs and 2 arms, a body, even if you feel chubby, and you have 2 eyes, and thank goodness for that. In these world there is people who only have one leg, or are deformed by birth or even accidents and they still maintain a high-self esteem to keep living. so if you really think about it, you are bringing yourself down and you needd to STOP IT, and start thinking positive and change your way of thinking, so you can look different and people will notice you. advice, go some place for a makeover, do your hair, dress like you would love too, do your nails, make up. start with something or do something different out of the ordinary so you can feel better and start from there, maybe this changes can give you a boost to change.
2016-05-23 07:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, it's just the wings and moods of life. Happiness comes only in short moments and intervals. Perhaps what is lacking is something that you can devote to that becomes your pride and joy? For some, it is a hobby, their children, or forgetting themselves as they help others out in their community.
If your condition is not crippling, you may be able to take care of the situation yourself. I have no experience with bi polars except for those online, so I do not know for certain their needs.
2006-12-11 14:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding like a shrink, I dare not ask what makes you unhappy. Perhaps we can focus on what makes you happy. Think about that for a moment...done? surely not. When we get depressed, we tend to focus entirely on unhappiness and how to stay that way. Instead, absolute concentration on what and who we enjoy in life can quickly and permanently drain the negative energy. Sound like BS?... Try it!; The second you feel the urge to be or think negative, take that second to think or be positive about the situation. In One Second, You will change Your Life. I know it will work. Bless you. You are the greatest!
2006-12-11 14:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's do a little human brain 101.
When we sleep, our brain makes chemicals LOWER than we are awake. Many of these chemicals control our emotions. When the chemicals are HIGH, we feel great. When we go to sleep, they drop, and we wake up feeling miserable. Especially if you have challengs, like you; bipolar, and me; depression. Every day I wake up DREADING another day.
By doing simple aerobic and stretching exercises every day, my brain pushes REALLY HIGH chemicals that make me feel "like a million bucks!" It takes about 30 minutes, can be done in the kitchen. And last all day. When I am especially freaked, I do it at work also. And I am back on my feet again. Write or go to my 360 page and I can tell you what exercises I do.
2006-12-11 14:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as a Christian my advice would be to turn to God. You are not a " big fast loser" you are what you make yourself. You are still young, and you can still do whatever you want to with your life.
Feeling sorry for yourself will get you no where and you just need the courage to get off of your feet and simply say I am not going to take it anymore. Get out there, do something that you enojoy, take up a hobby, go out and meet people. Just have fun, you only live once and always remember that you have a Heavenly Father that will always love you no matter what.
2006-12-11 14:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I feel like a big fat loser too. Everyone does, its normal. Try to remember what used to make you happy and go from there.
2006-12-11 14:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Tina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer...there has got to be something that makes you feel happy? well do it more often...The only way you can stop this vicious cycle is to replace it with things you love. It might sound weird but God knows that a strong person like you can handle this...it is all for a reason, embrace and learn from it.
2006-12-11 14:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start drinking water, take your one-a-day vitamins, get away from the drugs and the doctors, start waking up early, start exercising. sounds like you are just sitting around, getting depressed, going to doctors, getting misdiagnosed, and its only making you more depressed. its a continuous cycle, until you break yourself away from it. totally change your daily routine, avoid coffee's and caffeine. get plenty of sleep. i know a lady who is in your same cycle. she changed herself for the better after doing this stuff.
2006-12-11 14:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋