For some reason. I really like babies and really want one... I took care of my cousin (whom is 4 now) since he was a newborn... I got up with him every time he woke up. I mean i pretty much raised him since the day he was born. And now i really want a child of my own. the problem is i'm only 16. yes i know i was really young when i took care of my cousin. I literally took him everywhere with me. because thats how a mother acts. and actually he calls me momma. I just don't know. I know babies are alot of work. They cost hella lot and everything. but would it be that bad to have a baby this young?
Please any advice would help!
*jess*
2006-12-11 14:02:15 · 14 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think that when the right time comes, you'll be a wonderful mom.
At 16, you have a whole life ahead of you to learn about who you are before you bring a baby into your life. Your education is important and a baby would mostly bring it to a stop. In the years between 16 and 24 you change more than you can imagine. The things that are important to you now will mean nothing when you are in your 20's and allowing your 16 year old self to make permanent changes to your whole life is a dangerous thing to do. Think about the bands and clothes you couldn't live without just two years ago when you were 14, I'll bet when you look back on those things, you cringe a bit about how immature your 14 year old self was. That's how you'll feel in two more years about your 16 year old self and two years after that about your 18 year old self.... Unless you have a baby because then, the searching, experimenting, learning, growing part of your life that is so important will be swallowed up by your child.
That's not to say that people who accidentally get pregnant at 16 can't be wonderful mom's but to be a really good mother, you have to give yourself time to have your own life before you start caring for another :)
Don't make a decision today that will change your life so drastically hon. As caring as you are, be that caring of yourself. Give yourself a chance to have fun because that baby will be there in your heart waiting for you when you get older.
2006-12-11 14:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically, 16 years have not problem for having a baby. But financially, can you afford that? You don't have to work when looking after your cousin, as the parents had take care of the cost. What about if it's your own baby? Can you work and at the same time look after your baby? You should wait, and most important wait for his/her trustworthy father to appear.
2006-12-11 14:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you are too young, jess! if you want a baby this badly the best thing to do is think of the child's welfare. You can be so much more for your child if you wait till you are married and can offer the right kind of life.
2006-12-11 14:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunnie it is very expensive yes to have a baby yes. and i think you should atleast finish high school before you start thinking of having one. live life some you are still really young. I know where you are coming from though. And you need to pick out the right guy, for you and your future baby. some guys just get girls pregnant then leave them and you wouldnt want to have to go through that. give it a couple of years. for now just watch your lil cousin more and get the experience then have one in a couple of years when you finish school. good luck
2006-12-11 14:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen watching your nephew and having a child of your own is very different. You need to find yourself first and at sixteen you really don't know who you are yet so I highly suggest waiting not only for yourself but any child you want to bring into this world. Trust me you will be a better mom if you just wait.
2006-12-11 14:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by irms49930 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you are too young to have a baby. having a baby is a nice thing but you must be matured enough to take care of yourself and the baby when you have one. When you grow older, you may start to think differently
2006-12-11 21:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's wonderful that you have experience with a baby and young child. but, i honestly think you should wait until you are older to have a baby. there are so many other things for you to do now before children start coming.
2006-12-11 14:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young. There's heaps of stuff you can do before you settle down and have babies. travel, college... i;m sure you'll have a heap of babies one day, why not enjoy being single and baby free for now? I have just had my first bub and boy, i appreciate all the stuff i did before she was born. myself, i would wait until i was older, and married, and had enjoyed being young and carefree!!
2006-12-11 14:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by havinfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait hun
i know that you want a baby... i wanted one too at 18 but looking back i can see how hard it would have been and im glad i waited. maybe take care of friends/familys babies... that will help with the feeling sad you dont have one.
2006-12-11 14:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by *angel* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know, deep in your heart, that it is better to wait.
Have you considered a career dealing with infants? Neonatologist? Neonatal Nurse? Lactation consultant? Early childhood educator? Daycare?
2006-12-11 14:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋