There is this guy who I really like. He said he is not ready for a relationship right now but I really want one with him. We are what you call dateing. I think Im the only one he is seeing at the moment though. So here is the thing. I have tried to show him that I have feelings for him but he never notices them or he acts like he dont. I rub his back for him and i try to do little simple things to show him I feel for him. When we make love we look each othrer in the eyes. But sometimes it seems like he is not really there. He made the coment once that something did not feel right but we did it any way. Im so sweet to him. I care for him. I offer to babysit his kids so he can rest. Is there any thing I can do to really get him to realize I have feelings and want more. What is going on here???
2006-12-11 13:58:41 · 19 answers · asked by lady bug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is scared and you should come out and tell him your feelings. If you don't he will just take advantage of you and all the nice things you are doing. If it doesn't workout there are a lot of nice guys that would love to have more. It sounds like he just wants to have a ?@$@ buddy. Sorry for the ture. But I may be wrong just tell him the way he makes you feel. Good Luck
2006-12-11 14:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by charles l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit treating him like his mother. Go out and have some fun with your friends. He will notice the change and wonder what has happened to his door mat. When you overdo it with someone who is acting a little immature in a relationship, they feel smothered. If you start acting like you have a life outside this relationship, he will wake up to the fact that he does not have all the control. You also need to wake up and stop giving him that control over your life.
2006-12-11 22:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by GreaseMonkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few possible reasons.
For one thing, he may need time and something may be going on with him.
Another, is that he is just using you.
The fact that he is not ready for a relationship says that you shouldn't really rush him in or out of things too quickly. He still might not feel comfortable.
Just ask.
2006-12-11 22:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Leilani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, if you are already makig love then he should know you have feelings for him..you see there is a difference in having sex and making love. Another thing is that, maybe he's too scared to show that he wants more too, i think one of you should take initiative and just say how you feel, because if you guys don't talk soon, then you may end up as just sex partners...
2006-12-11 22:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet_Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made yourself tooooo available and your intentions are wayyyyy toooooo obvious. When a man is honest w/you, honor and respect that honesty. Do not try to change his mind or behavior. You'll only end up disappointed in the end and blame him. Remember that you chose to do all those things so if it doesn't work out don't blame him or other men. Women should stop trying to change us.
2006-12-11 22:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he meant what he said. He's not ready for a relationship. Can you love him enough to be patient with him? Are you really looking out for his best interests or your own? If you act selfishly, you may ruin any chance you may have.
2006-12-11 22:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going on is you are enabling him. He has it good with you so he is going to stay as long as something better does not come along. However he does not love you and if you push him you will no longer be easy to him and he may move on. Its your choice if you want to risk not seeing him.
2006-12-11 22:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by strmch8sr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude, but simply sit him down and tell him exactly how
you feel. that way the ball is in his court and at least he'll know
where you stand. this way if he does break up with you it won't
hurt as bad as it would if things were prolonged.
your humble servant, alphamod2001
2006-12-11 22:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by alphamod2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually sit the guy down and tell him everything. what you feel. . .what you want from him. . .everything. . . dont just think that giving hints is good enough. . . we as guys hardly ever recognize hints on stuff like this. . .you just have to straight up tell us what you want and how you feel
2006-12-11 22:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by scusoccer123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go, if he says it doesnt feel right he obviously is not into you as much as you are into him. Try for someone who will appreciate you more.
2006-12-11 22:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by pdx_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋