I am in a relationship for nearly 1year. However, I dont have the wish or urge to get married with him at all. I am not sure if I am commited as I dont want to hurt him if i am not.
2006-12-11 13:56:31 · 14 answers · asked by Joeann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have known each other for some time now. You feel that a reasonable level of compatibility exist between you. Your partner has demonstrated the desire, capability, and readiness to enter into a serious relationship with you. And you both feel in love with each other. Congratulations! You are ready to commit to a loving relationship.
You may decide on a legal wedding ceremony or, for the less traditional, a non-legal or private way of formalizing your commitment to each other. Whatever form you select, it is important to understand the true meaning of such commitment.
Your commitment to your mate is not your marriage license, your wedding ceremony, nor your living arrangements. When you commit, you are in fact agreeing to the following:
"After serious consideration and with full responsibility and integrity, I am agreeing to share my life with my partner; to assist in his/her personal growth development and happiness wherever and whenever I can. I also agree to cherish and protect this union with my partner so it can forever flourish and always remains a happy one. I am agreeing to this because I want to, and for no other reason."
When you look at marriage in this way, it becomes easier to see why a marriage commitment does not end with a ceremony. Instead, it becomes a commitment for two people to strive toward, on a day-to-day basis. The commitment is to ensure the continued growth of each other and the relationship.
I always remember the expression on a young lady's face when, one morning, she burst into the office where I worked. With excitement, pride, and contentment in her voice, she showed off her engagement ring. She had finally received a marriage proposal from a young man whom we all considered to be one of the most eligible bachelors around. She was the envy of all the women.
I later learned she had confided in close friends that, although she had hoped for a marriage proposal, she had not really expected one. She confessed that she had done all she could to win her fiancé, and that she was glad that it was over now. No, it is not over yet. Too many people see marriage as a point of arrival instead of the beginning of a long journey.
Too many people support the belief that after they have taken the necessary steps to secure a marriage commitment, they can relax in the comfort that their work is done. This kind of thinking can cause complacency, which is one of the killers of love relationships. I am reminded of an old saying: "The same things you did to win your partner are the same things you should do to keep him/her."
2006-12-11 14:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Meep, the Kind Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commitment may mean: Commitment means to pledge to some thing or someone.
Personal commitment, interaction dominated by obligations. These obligations may be mutual, or self-imposed, or explicitly stated, or may not. Distinction is often made between commitment as a member of an organisation (such as a sporting team, a religion, or as an employee)
Involuntary commitment, the practice of using legal means or forms to commit a person to a mental hospital, insane asylum or psychiatric ward against the will or over the protests of that person
Ontological commitment, belief in an ontology in philosophy
Commitment (Computer Science) to concept of commitment is studied in several branches of Computer Science around the notion of something pledged.
Physical commitment is information pledged about physical systems (that are situated at a particular place and time).
Social commitment, in a multi-agent system a directed obligation from one agent to another about to being about a certain state of affairs or to perform certain actions
Organizational commitment can mean something pledged by an organization as opposed to its members
B.S. be specific
2006-12-11 22:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by konig_charger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment does not mean marriage. You can be committed to someone by simply being with them and only them while you continue to grow by self and with each other. If pressure is on marriage then ensure the person you are with them and having a signed piece of paper will not change anything so be patience.
2006-12-11 22:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by curious1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to marry this person then you should not date him any longer. It will become more difficult the longer you wait to break it off. If you really consider the feelings of the other person you won't drag it out.
2006-12-11 22:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by garden gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
commitment is only wanting to be with that person -- on one else exists --- its wanting to share a life together or at least exploring the possibility of sharing a life together
marriage is not commitment -- commitment is something you feel and a piece of paper does not change that
2006-12-11 22:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose, you are not ready to get marry. And this has nothing to do with commitment. Of course, if you decided to marry him then you have to commit yourself to him as wife and husband.
2006-12-11 22:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by AH HA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A commitment is a promise to compromise and being dedicated to maintaining a mutual respect.
2006-12-11 22:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by curiositee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cant commit wait until your ready. If he's looking for marriage and dropped hints you might want to keep it real and dont string him along....If at some point you feel you cant comitt its better if you let him know......sooner or later...
2006-12-11 22:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be married to be committed to someone. If your not ready to be married, then dont be. If he or she loves you, they will not want to marry you , until you are ready.
2006-12-11 21:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Rugir 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are committed to him as long as you not cheating on him i think you are not ready to get married yet.
2006-12-11 22:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by AnjelBaby:(- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋