My old relationship was horrible!!!! I am so happy with my new love but I can't seem to get over my ex who treated me so badly. Is it normal to still have feelings for someone so mean?
2006-12-11 13:55:14 · 20 answers · asked by uptownsgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it is
and you won't get over him for a long time. That's just real. That doesn't mean no hope, however.
You don't need to feel guilt or anything like you're betraying your new love, that you're still thinking about him, though. And he needs to understand that this is a trying time for you, in multiple ways. He hurt you, but you still love him. In fact, it might've been cool if he had given you more time to get over this dude but since y'all didn't take this route, you need to just hammer it on out in your heart, and go through the motions.
You would have had to do this anyway, with or without the new love. You're going to have to write in your journal, talk your friends' ears off, your parents' ears off, and everything else you may need to do to get over him.
In the end, you may still remember him, in your heart. This is ok, too, because trying to forget him completely will make you crazy. So remember him in your heart. Hopefully if all goes right, one day, and probably not next week but one day, you will get to the point where you can think of him and not start bawling your eyes out or something. For the wrongs he did or for missing him so. But that takes time. It's a process.
If you be brave and you be strong girl, you can do it!!! When you have done it, it won't even feel like a prize girl, you will feel like a stronger and better person. It is the strength that God will have given you, through the process.
2006-12-11 14:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by bun223 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is that this ex is really out of your life now- no phone calls, no emails, no contact whatsoever. If you're still talking to him, it's a recipe for disaster. Shut him out and eventually he will fade into the past.
Also, it could be that this new guy isn't all that great- he just seems great by comparison with the awful ex; and because fresh love is always exciting- but you had more of a serious connection to the last guy. If it weren't for the rebound effect, he might not be that interesting to you at all.
2006-12-11 14:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how long you have been broken up. It's definately normal.....you still feel an attachment and don't beat yourself up for it. However, make sure that you aren't just settling for the next "nice guy". I did that once. It turned out that I was liking this guy for being everything my jerk ex wasn't. The only thing was that I wasn't liking him for being him. Long story short, make sure that there is a good amount of healing time before you really get involved with someone else.
2006-12-11 14:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by emd1121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just u aren't use to haveing a diffrent person in ur life i know how it feels it does get pretty weird but all u have to do is just take it easy and don't get into the relationship so fast take it slow and be yourself it may sound weird but it works.and yes it is normal but u still luved him so it makes it hard on you even if he did treat you badly.
2006-12-11 14:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by Gurl-in-luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a somewhat recent break up? Usually feelings will still linger a bit even if it was a horrible break up. your best bet is to get rid of anything that reminds you of him and try to focus all your attention on your new love, the feelings will eventually dissappear and you'll be able to enjoy your new relationship a lot more.
2006-12-11 13:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Your just remembering the good times, and blocking out the bad times. If you haven't waited before getting in a new relationship after the breakup you could be on the rebound.
2006-12-11 13:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are happy with your new love and still you are thinking
of your ex who treated you badly... your ex is like a trash,
put it inside the trash can and try not to think of him again...
in this case, it will take time of his face to fade out permanently.
2006-12-11 14:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex treated me like total **** and we have been broken up for 2 years and I still think about him everyday, just keep pushing through it, its nature, it will go away. But don't make yourself feel bad for thinking about him, its ok....good luck sweetie
2006-12-11 13:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal, but in time you will realize that he is not worth thinking about. do your best to move on and be happy.
2006-12-11 13:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its that you were so use to being with him and what he did,now that you are with someone different you kind of miss it(this happened to me with my ex) its normal youll get over it
2006-12-11 13:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by * Chika Mommy * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋