What can I do about school bullies?

Question

I have a 13 year old daughter thats is in 8 th grade. She has been bullied by other children for years. She is not loud and she doesnt curse like most kids in the school. She is being bullied in her class, in the gym etc. What can I do about this? Its been happening for too many years. I have told the teacher, asst. principal etc. and the situation only helps for a little while then we go through the same thing again. I'm tired of it. please help. Thanks

Answer 1

if you are telling the school, and the problem still isn't getting resolved, the school is held extremely responsible! a new law was passed, i'm not sure when, but it states that no child should be subject to any form of abuse at the schoo. threaten the school that if they don't immediately radify the problem, that you are going straight to the school board to report neglect and abuse happening at their school! enrolling your child in a self defense class shopuld help build her confidense, even if she is non-confritational, because thay will teach her how to defend herself in a way she is comfortable. i would definately get her counseling too, because the troubles she has in school will have a long term affect on her for the rest of her life. make her understand that she is deserving of respect. that's where counseling can really help. it sounds like she has some selfesteem issues. good luck. ther is plenty you can do for her, if truly want help!

Answer 2

First off, I'd like to say how amazing your daughter is. Not many kids, especially her age, would play with someone who gets teased a lot. Kids think that's it's wrong if you befriend someone who is different or is bullied a lot. You should be very proud of her. I'm not really that old, In fact, I'm in high-school. I've been bullied every year since kindergarten, and I've had to move to FOUR different schools because of the severity of the teasing. I've not only been verbally teased, but I've also been punched, kicked, slammed into lockers, and hit with objects in school. Teachers don't do much about it anymore although EVERY school you can go to nowadays is a "big anti-bully school". That's bullshit, because I've actually been punched in the face in front of a teacher and they've done nothing about it. Instead of having all those "no drugs" talk, we should have "no bullying" talks in school. Also, parents need to explain how and bullying is to their children. This could save someone.

Answer 3

It does not matter if it is physical or verbal bullying, neither is acceptable.Contact your principal immediately and let him/her know you expect them to adddress this situation when it is happening at school.Bullying is not just kids being kids and is not just a harmlesss activity.It is a systematic abuse of an insecure and or weaker individual.You could also contact your local police and see if they could come to the school and have a presentation to students (and parents) about the impact of bullying..Some schools have programs designed to teach children how to make good choices in their life.These courses also teach the child to have confidence in themself so they don't become a victim.I think the course was given by community police officers who are specially trained to be effective communicators with young people.I think the course was called V.I.P.

Answer 4

Hmmm! Where does your child go to schoolat? Most school have what you call zero tolorence for this kind of behavior. I would suggest that you check your local colleges for a class on bullies and how to handle them. Plus, I'd make the school be held accountable for what is happening there. Document, document. school is suppose to be a save place for all children. If necessry I'd call the police and file charges against those student that are harming my child. Plus, Mom have you thought to form a support group at the school for parent s and students that are being bullied?

Answer 5

Why is she being bullied? There is some reason why kids are making fun of her. Get her into a church youth group or club. Maybe a change of wardrobe, hairstyle, or personality will help. She needs to get into something that will help her make positive friends that can stick up for her if she can't. Obviously she has a self esteem issues with people messing with her, but sometimes when others can pick that up they take it as far as she'll let them. She needs to learn how to stick up for herself without getting suspended. She needs to come back from Christmas break or summer break going into 9Th grade with a new attitude and brush these people off. Have her tell them you aren't even worth my time. You bore me. Do you have nothing else to do. Have her laugh at them. Someone needs to put them in their place. And your daughter needs to be the one to do that. I pray that all goes well.

Answer 6

Kids can be so so cruel. Your daughter needs to stand up to them even a slight bit. Even the first time would knock them down a few notches. It's so unfortunate, but kids are teasing her because she is an easy target. Someone who won't fight back. She is too laid back, which can be a good thing but not here.

I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope things get patched soon.

Answer 7

My brother went through alot of bullying in school b/c he wouldn't stand up for himself *I did for him though and winded up suspened a few times my senior year, b/c of fighting with the guys that were harrassing him* ...When he was asked why he didn't stand up for himself. He simply said they weren't worth his time or energy. He was and still is a passive person, very quiet and he keeps to him self. Me on the other hand. I didn't start nothing but I wouldn't take it either. but it was hard for him to deal with, she needs to stand up for herself even just a little bit, to show them, even if she is that she isn't scared of them. Bullies tend to pick on the ones they percieve as weaker. If the school isn't goin gto do anything about it, then go to the school board or police, most schools now take bully as something seriuos and not something that every child goes through.

Answer 8

Unfortunately very little. I think you have done what you can as a parent. If you mean physical bullying then yuo nedd to take it straight tro the principal. If you mean verbal teach your chlid a few good comebacks.

Answer 9

Report the school authorities to the local education office or maybe even the Ministry of Education if they can't do anything... Bring your child together as evidence of bully.

Answer 10

put her in something that she would like. like, if she likes dance, put her in that. when she meets more kids like her, she will be more productive. then when she gets more confidence (sports like dance, cheerleading, soccer, lacrosse, etc, build a TON of confidence, i should know) she will realize she doesnt need the kids to bully her. do NOT tell teachers, etc (unless she is getting hurt) because middle schoolers view that as telling and will only pick on her more.