My girl for 1.5 years told me to hit the road but I think she talks too much to her friends about men and took their advice on this one. I have met them and they always seem bitter. Our problem was my work schedule. I have a demanding job that has required 10-12 hour days (some at home too) so I am sometimes a little frazzled. It won't always be this way, and that's why I work so hard. She has more free time than me and seems to always want entertainment. now it turned into a "you can't commit" thing with her. I know a lot of it is coming from her friends. we haven't spoken in 3 weeks since she dumped this on me. What is she thinking about now, or expecting me to do? (I know there will be some cute comments and I do have a sense of humor so bring it on. lol). Thanks.
2006-12-11 13:42:57 · 17 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly if I was in her shoes I'd be trying to put things into perspective. Is he saying he's working but not or is he really busting his butt at work? Did I do the right thing or did I just lose the best thing that's ever happened to me? There could be several questions running through her head, and you'll never get a one of them cause well we're women. lol
Just try and talk with her or leave her a message saying hey I still want to be with you and maybe we can try and work something out to where we can spend some time together. Like a date night for example where neither has to work and you can go out or stay in together. Let her know you're not meaning to ignore her in any way and that things will get better after you've worked there for a little while and get settled in.
Remember it's the little things that count. : )
2006-12-11 13:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by angel_of_life_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually ignore the advice of my friends because I prefer sifting through my own situations and finding things out for myself. Besides, most of my guys have been WAY better than some of the smucks they've dated.
Your girl does seem to be a bit manipulated by her peers, and it seems she has touble differentiating between a hectic work scedule and unwillingness to commit. You should talk to her, make her understand that you do like her, and are willing to commit (if you are) and your work schedule makes it hard on the both of you, but you are willing to work through it. If she's a good girl, she'll see the light. If she doesn't, then you're better off.
2006-12-11 13:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Your Torrid Love Affair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ex is the one with the problem, You sound like a hard working man. But Im wondering when you arent working were you making time for the two of you together.
Alot of times its not always how much time you spend together as what you do with the time you have to spend together.
She may have been feeling left out and that you were not spending time with her and instead of talking to you about it she turned to her friends instead. Her friends only hear one side and thats hers so whatever they told her was proubly going by what her feelings are. But in the end its her decision on what to do.
If you really feel the relationship is worth saving try talking to her and see what you could do to make the relationship work. good luck.
2006-12-11 13:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm. This is a tough one. I have several girlfriends, and they each have a unique perspective. I have a very optimistic, 'jr. league' type friend; a rather bitter, 'take-no-prisoners' friend; and a psychology major friend. (I'm 30, but I'm back in school, and so is she). I, too, have a very hectic schedule - full time job, full-time student, etc. I tend to get advice from each of my friends, (although sometimes, I do forgo soliciting advice from my bitter friend). I think carefully, weigh each friends advice, and find that in the end, sometimes I just have to follow my heart. It is scary. But in all honesty, bitterness will always be tainted. Her advice will never come from a place of complete openness and honesty. She may love you very much and want to protect you. But if you always try to protect your heart, you may miss som great opportunities. And if this helps, I'm 30, and my boyfriend is 29. He graduated college last year, and I have 2 more years to go. We know it will get better for me in two years - so we are just hanging in there!!!
2006-12-11 13:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by snippet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have found that listening to a close friend of mine used to get me really hurt. Another gave me reallllllllly good advice. I think that you have to use common sense when it comes to anything, guys especially. Think like this, if it feels bad for you, dont you think it will for him too? More than likely. If he does something that makes you angry if you return the favor how would he react? Also, if you feel, your gut feeling, you are being disrespected, then you should go with your gut feeling. Some things you cant share with your girlfriends, I also had a girlfriend who knew that the guy I was with was cheating on me, for like a year and when we got in a fight, she told me. I asked her many years later and then she said she didnt remember. We hardly speak but I feel like that was using common sense on my part to let her hit the road. (I dumped the guy soon after)
2006-12-11 13:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first i liked your answer about emailing this cute guy i know from work, i agree with your answer. Well I don't take my friends advice bcuz if i did i would be a Golden Girl. Girlfriends always have an opinion, and its based on how they live their life! also, girls can be coniving without realizing it, so they may not try to harm your relationship, but they bring some of their bitterness into their friends "so-called" problems to right relationship mistakes they've made. i have a friend, who, if i did listen to her, would completely destroy my life, i take advice with a grain of salt. i hope this helps, or maybe makes no sense!
2006-12-11 16:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by LAinCM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 35 and generally when my friends thought negative of a guy it was true. I did not however dump a guy because of their opinions I always moved on because of how I felt. My friends are great though they never told me to dump a guy they just somehow knew the guy wasnt right for me. What she expects you to do is hard to say, maybe she's waiting on you to call and ask her to dinner. Or maybe she's moved on and it wasnt her friends that caused this but the fact you put your work before her and she was tired of waiting.
2006-12-11 13:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 05:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would understand your problem as long as I didn't think there was another lady in the mix somewhere. Has your libido decreased lately? Maybe she's thinking there is someone else. If not then she just needs a dose of grow the hell up. I guess you could call her and ask her what would need to happen to get back on track.
2006-12-11 13:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by johannacass@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only truth here was that u were commited and she wasn't and for a relationship to work u need comitment on both sides the trut then understanding and love . it looks like u did'nt have all of those things with that picticular woman . but hey their are alot of wemon outiheir looking for a hard working man and are ready for comitment. good luck i hope u find miss right
2006-12-11 13:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by himhum03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋