How can I stop? I feel so mean...?

Question

I feel really mean because im 1. a snob and 2.a favorite picker,
my mom died when I was 2 and ive had a step mom since I was 4, I really love her, but we argue every day, I used to do alot of small things for her, ( when I was 7) like make little cards for her or pickup pretty leaves, and now since ive grown out of that I try to show her that I don't want any other mom but her, but I don't think its that clear,...I feel so bad, ive tried everything, but somehow I always do something to provoke an argument.

Answer 1

Are you a teenager? Teens argue with their moms all the time. My mom and I fought like cats and dogs every single day. We're best friends now, though.

Just tell her openly "Mom, I know I don't always say or do the right things, and we fight a lot. But I want you to know that I love you and wouldn't want any other mom but you."

Or, better yet, make her a card like you used to, and put this message inside. She'll remember what you've said (or written) when you argue.

Answer 2

first....stop provoking...she has raised you since you were four years old...be grateful honey....and stop being so snobbish...no one is better than anyone else, if you love this woman then you will respect her because she has laid down her life for you and has took you on as her own....i am sorry that you lost your real mum at such a young age but there's this woman in your life who will always be there for you...treat her good and you will get rewards...have a good Christmas hun...bless you...may i add that you can still make them little cards for her to show her how much you really appreciate her...she sounds like a wonderful lady

Answer 3

She will never forget the lovely child you were, and she will know there is a lovely adult in you. You can now do adult small things, like cook a meal, (or treat her to one out if you are able, even a cheap lunch)

It is perfectly clear you love her, and you realise how lucky you are this woman has loved you as if you were her own child. Maybe you should see other people the way you see her, in how they treat other people, and not their social status.

Everyone has favourites, by the way, it's the way we handle it in certain situations that lets our judgement down.

Answer 4

argus r part of evryday family life reassure her that u still love her
i don't think it is that much of an issue.
u could try changing the intent, i.e the tone of ur
approach 2 her.
it is only natural that u have some emotional scars from ur past.
u both have to learn to live with it.
and tolerate each other as absolute best u can
good luck.

Answer 5

Before u do anything or say anything to provoke her think who raised u and the things she did to u and how many times she was there when u needed her or needed help and how much she loved u....if this doesn't ring a bell then u need help

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Could it be that you are mad at your real mom for dying on you?
Finally it is coming to a head?

Answer 8

Smile, tell her you love her, and that you feel blessed to have her in your life. That's it.

Answer 9

think you should talk and ask her what is expected of you
have a wonderfull christmas

Answer 10

Set your mind to change, and with practice you can...