I just broke up with my BF of 4 months 2 days ago. I've been suffering big time. The first day I was crying all over the place. Thing is, he's everything I want in a bf and long-term partner, but I haven't consistantly felt that "ease and flow"/Natural chemistry/passion and intense physical attraction. He's cute but I just don't feel "it", whatever it is. Did I break up too early with him before finding out? I think after 4 months I should know by now or that natural chemistry would have kicked in but I'm starting to second guess myself and If I'm going to get back with him - the sooner the better I guess, right? But what if it never kicks in and I end up breaking it off again and hurting him yet again? It kills me to hurt him again, but if we work out and the passion/chemistry comes than thats a great reward. I miss him so much. He would lay his life down for me. Do I just need to get over this phase and stick to my decision or get back with him and see if "it" kicks in? Thank you :)
2006-12-11 13:36:31 · 7 answers · asked by Violet Wisdom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can not make decisions based upon what if. IF is a big word. If after 4 months you aren't feeling anything for him in that way....then move on. There has to be some chemistry. You have to enjoy being with him. Maybe you two will find that you can be really good friends. Who knows, he may end up introducing you to your future husband one day!
2006-12-11 13:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by becca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good time for you two to see how this is going to be. Usually when you brake up with someone and they truley love you they will come back. Or you could be the kind like me. Everytime i they get to close to me i brake up with them. I never date anyone over a month. I dont want to be hurt is my problem. If that is the case then you have a problem. Ask your self these questions then it will work out for the better.
2006-12-11 21:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you broke up with him, it was for a reason. If you want it to work out then try again with him.
I think you should know right away if he's the right kinda person for you. My boyfriend and I knew it was love right away. Then again we've known and loved eachother for 11 years.
2006-12-11 21:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely keep seeking out perfection and that imaginary *it*, whatever it is. Call me when you're alone, bored, miserable, gray, and still holding the magnifying glass. 419-655-8742
2006-12-11 21:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
before you make your discission think hard, if you want to get him back make sure its for real. think why you broked off with him the first place, do you really want to go back to that. do what you heart tells you. if you really want him back go for it but take it slowly, no comminments. good luck.
2006-12-11 21:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u still love him and he still loves you then yes u broke up way to soon
2006-12-11 21:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by may_jhenae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not into it, it's not right. Don't second guess yourself.
2006-12-11 21:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Rita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋