Im a single 25 year old girl, and my friends and I usually go out to bars in Philly on the weekends. We're pretty cute girls and we usually talk to some guys, like anyone would. I generally have no interest in the guys who come talk to me, for some reason or another. Im just not attracted to most of them. My problem is this. When I do see a guy I want to talk to, I get too shy to go talk to him. Im not really a shy person, I just dont have the guts to go up to a random guy and just say hello. So, I need some help. I need something I can say to start a conversation with a guy I want to talk to. If I just went up and said hello, I;d probably have nothing to say after that and it would be weird. So, what could I say to start a conversation with the guys I want to talk to?
2006-12-11 13:32:23 · 15 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy doesn't have enough balls to come up to talk to you, you really don't want this guy (even if he's cute) because these guys who are too scared of rejection are pretty spineless wimps.
2006-12-11 13:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simple. I'll tell you what I do:
1. Ask something about that person or that person's activities, like "What are you drinking?" or "Where'd you get that hat/tie/shirt?"
2. The opinion grabber. This works better if you are already with female friends, but you go up to the guy and say "Me and my girlfriends were talking about something and we wanted a guy's opinion." Then you can ask him about, say, who pays on a date, the guy or the girl, or what's more attractive, a beautiful personality and an average face, or a beautiful face and an average personality. Etc. Etc.
2006-12-11 13:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman claiming to be beautiful, smart and each and all of the rest might desire to have something incorrect with them in the event that they are able to't come across an more suitable half. you at the instant are not likely to locate prince captivating on a white horse. you have possibly neglected many good adult adult males basically because of the fact there replaced into no preliminary spark. additionally, if the adult adult males in bars do not attitude you why do not you attempt drawing close them? --- replace --- To be truthful we would all prefer to have somebody with a lot of chemistry and fireworks and all that. yet those issues do not final perpetually. All i'm saying is dont be dismissive of somebody too straight away. you're possibly precise approximately people settling, i think of maximum persons do. I may be able to take my own suggestion thats possibly why i'm nonetheless single. stable luck on your seek. No this is not immature to choose on all that. i'm possibly basically finding at it from the attitude of a typical joe. maximum persons arent surrounded via eye-catching smart people the place we are able to %. and choose. maximum persons finally end up with the superb they are able to get. Love grows from there.
2016-12-11 07:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by kleckner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is ask him a question about something he is wearing/doing at the time and go from there. After the icebreaker ask him what he does for a living and make more questions based on his answers.
If you stutter or he does, and an awkward silence comes up, just excuse yourself to go back to your gfs and tell him to come get you for a dance later.
Won't always work to your favor, but dating is a numbers game.
2006-12-11 13:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by mike Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys, especially if they are in a bar will talk about sports! sooo, get into the sports section of your local paper before you head out and start talking...since we're in the football season, get to know a little about who Philly is playing coming up and what their playoff chances are..if any! Good luck to you!
2006-12-11 13:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was at a bar in Chicago and a women came up to me and said hello, what's your name? Where are from? Well, to make it short we spent the night together and dated for nearly 3 years. When you go up to a guy and say hello and he doesn't respond in a welcome type manner, his mostly likely not interested. I love when women come up to me.
2006-12-11 13:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheesy male pickup lines work great (at least on me)...tells me that she is interested and has a sense of humor.
Such as, but not limited to:
"Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?"
"Can I buy you a drink, or would you rather just have the money?"
"Did you wash those pants with Windex...cause I can sure see myself in them."
"I lost my phone number, can I have yours?"
"If I told you that you had a nice body, would you hold it against me?"
And so forth...
2006-12-11 13:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the bartener/waitress or whoever is serving drinks.... to take a drink to him (whatever he has been ordering) that you buy for him.... and tell him you'd like to say hello, but are too shy. They should tell him if he'd like to say hello, he won't be shot down.
When they tell him, he will look at you.... just smile and make eye contact.
The rest is up to him.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-11 13:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say anything when he is at the bar just walk up order a drink and hang around a minute if he is not dense he'll get the hint
i hope
2006-12-11 13:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by konig_charger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The weirdness is okay. It contributes to sexual tension. Stick with hello and embrace the weirdness.
2006-12-11 13:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by halitobro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋