I picked out a really nice dress for my 3 bridesmaid.
The chief bridesmaid has been complaining like there is no tomorrow. At first the dress was a bit long, now she is saying that the dress is showing her arms too much and she does not like her arms.
Keep in mind she is a bit insecure but very pretty! (I don't get it either). She has now asked if she should get a different dress with the same color. I said ok, but I am soo not happy because the dress I picked is very stylish and hip and everyone adores it..
She has asked if she could put a "showl" over it..and I hate those. I don't even know if I got that spelling right. Please help me!!
What should I do???
2006-12-11 13:28:20 · 14 answers · asked by Joni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She could be looking for a way to get out of the wedding or it could be the dress does not match her body type. If the dresses haven't been paid for yet you might want to try the dress shopping one last time. If she still complains, just tell her you thank her for wanting to be in YOUR wedding party but maybe you could utilize her somewhere else. Whatever you decide, remember this is about making your day a happy one and the one YOU have always dreamed of.
Personally, I say get rid of her now and have a happy wedding.
2006-12-11 14:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apparently, everyone doesn't adore it. The dress you've picked out makes your friend uncomfortable. Valuing this particular dress over your friend's comfort would say a lot about how you value your friends.
Let her pick another dress in the same color or wear a shawl. Even if you don't like them; you're not wearing it. It's normal for the chief bridesmaid, or maid of honor, to have on something to set her apart from the other bridesmaids anyway.
Please remember that even though this is your wedding day, it's only one day. Why push something so trivial that might cause a big rift between the two of you, just because you want everything to be your way? Get some perspective, and don't be a bridezilla. Just because this is the most important day in your life doesn't mean it's the most important day in everyone else's.
2006-12-11 13:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you've met her halfway by letting her have a different style dress. You can even meet her more than halfway by allowing her to wear the shawl at the reception--IF she agrees not to wear it for the ceremony or photos.
Btw, what is a Chief Bridesmaid? Do you mean Maid of Honor?
P.S.-Does anyone else think that apple martini chick sounds like a filthy skank?
2006-12-11 20:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding darlin...not hers!! Do what you want to do because, again, it is your day!
A big trend now is the bride picking the color of the dress and allowing the bridesmaids to pick the style that works best with their body...you might want to consider that, if you want another option.
If not, just tell her to wear what you pick...if she doesn't like it, then she doesn't have to be in the wedding.
2006-12-12 04:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding but I also think that when you pick a dress you should consider the people wearing them. If she is that insecure with her arms , let her wear the shaw . The main thing is the people that love and care for you are sharing that day with you . Besides this day is about you and your dress . Just relax and dont sweat the small stuff.
2006-12-11 14:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by niknak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is your special day not hers. I have never heard the term chief bridesmaid. Is she the maid/matron of honor ? If she is then her dress needs to be different from the rest. Remember some wedding dresses you can never wear again. So I wouldnt want to be upset if she wanted something she could wear on another occasion.
2006-12-11 13:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stick to your guns on the first dress that you chose for all of them to wear. It is your wedding and you are the one getting married and doing all the planning, not her. So I would say, keep the original dress and if she doesnt like it, oh well just explain to her that you are getting married here not her.
I hated the dress I had to wear for the wedding I was in(maid of honor)and I kept my mouth shut cuz I knew that it was what she wanted since it really was her wedding.
2006-12-11 13:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok... first of all... the girl is SELFISH with a capital S! She is also jealous of your day. She is trying to take the attention on your special day. I feel soooo sorry for you! How awful... this should be your big day, and this beeotch is making it about her! Tell her under no circumstances will her dress be different from the rest. If she can't handle that... she is not your friend. A true friend would realize this is YOUR day... it's your time to shine and how dare her try to take that away....grrrrr people like this makes me mad....
2006-12-11 14:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by lester 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to STOP complaining! This wedding is about YOU, and about YOU looking good. If she complains ONE MORE TIME< you are going to scream! If that doesn't make her quit complaining, then tell her that you've had enough and that another girl is going to take her place. You didn't want to have to resort to such a threat, but OMG< what kind of friend is she? I think she's not a friend but a pathetic hanger on!
2006-12-11 13:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 03:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by felio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋