Okay my daughter just started going to the dentist today....well when we got there we did our regular paper work...and then they called her back shes 3 shell be 4 in jan well we went back there in this little room which wasnt her room theyd be looking at her teeth in and then the lady was like....were just going to do this and that..mind your her dentist is a man...and then i got up to move into the next room with my daughter and the lady was like no you go to the waiting room...and i just sat there stunned...so i got up in went in the other room well then they called me back there again and shes like yeah shes got 3 cativities and next visit were going to put fillings in them ...{still havent met the real dentist} and we will be giving her laughing gas and then if that doesnt work we will sedate her.....and im like hold up what? and so i get kinda mad...and then some guy whos walking by comes in and is trying to reassure me that itll be okay..i dont know if the man was the dentist or
2006-12-11 13:20:43 · 13 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Not because he never introduced himself and he was wearing a red shirt with a pair of blue jeans...and then when i got up to leave the receptionist is like your apt is jan 24 at 11 she didnt even ask what day id prefer or nothing...i really think its weird they take her back there and wont let me...i mean come on im her mother...is that normal and is it normal ive never met him?! i really dont think im taking her back? wouild you let your kid go?!
2006-12-11 13:22:04 · update #1
Your daughter is 3. She's probably scared of what's going on- the dentist is a nerve-racking experience for adults. Put your foot down- tell the staff that you WILL be allowed to sit with your daughter during ALL procedures. If they refuse, walk out and find another dentist. You have every right to protect and comfort your daughter. This is really inconsiderate and unprofessional behavior. If they refuse to work with you, I'd file a report with the proper authorities. Think about it- if they're treating you and your child like this- would you really trust them to sedate your daughter??? A 3 year that attends my church was sedated during a dental procedure and almost didn't come out from under the medicine. His mom had to rush him to the ER. It's YOUR daughter, not theirs. Protect her at all costs.
2006-12-12 14:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most dentists dont let parents go back with their children. Generally they do see the parents after they are done and explain things over with them though. Something that you as a parent must always remember is that if you have a bad feeling about something always trust if even if it makes you look bad in some way. Most generally children's hospitals have a dentistry department. They specialize in small kids and for cavities "laughing gas" may not be enough. You will always have a consult with the "real dentist" and be able to ask questions. Your child will feel comfortable because they can watch videos or bring special toys etc... If i were you knowing that I was told by the dental assistant my child needs fillings and never talking to the actual dentist i would absolutly get another oppinion. I would also ask questions before i even make the appointment also. Such as.... am i allowed to go back with my child....will i actually speak to the dentist....if a procedure needs to be done how will sedation take place if regular gas is not enough....etc...
2006-12-12 05:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by sunshineangel_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh...what kind of dentist are you going to? Is it a pediatric dentist? You definitely need to get a second opinion and never go back there again. That's just too shady! She's THREE!!!! OK. Here's how my daughter's dentist works. They start having dental appoitments at age 1 just to make sure there teeth are growing in correctly and there won't be any problems, etc. They don't clean them or anything at that early of an age. They do this yearly. They said by three, some kids will let there parents leave, but most like their parents to stay. You are legally allowed to stay with your daughter b/c she is so young. If I were you, I would have said something. I would have said, "No, I'll be staying with her." If they were to say ANYTHING, I'd say, "OK. Then she won't be staying" and I would've left. I'd like to see what they were doing to my daughter and I'd like to make sure she's OK.
So as a receptionist, I know that I have bad days and I want to be rude to everyone, but guess what? That's UNACCEPTABLE! It was rude for her not to ask when is good for you. But it is also your responsibility to say something. It's people like that who keep doing stuff like that b/c no one will say anything to them. I would have told her, no...that's not good for me. I will pick a day. It's not there job to pick when is good for you. You either pick a good day or you move one. that's how it is.
I would call back and say that I would like to have a meeting with the dentist. If they say you can't, then call another dentist. I HIGHLY recommend pediatric dentists though. They are typically kid-friendly and parent-friendly. They know some parents don't feel comfortable leaving there young children. The dentist I take my daughter to has an open room. The have the dentist chairs laid out next to each other (spaced apart, of course) and no walls so the kids can see each other. that way, they feel more comfortable b/c they can see what's going on with other kids. And the parents are allowed back.
well, DEFINITELY meet with the Dentist beforehand...not the same day either. And if that schedule isn't good for you, you let her know!!! As a receptionist, I condone rude behavior back if someone is rude to you. :) Not really, but just do what's best for you and your daughter.
2006-12-11 13:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first - has the kid lost her baby teeth yet? If not why the heck are you letting someone pick your pocket for teeth that are coming out anyway?
Second if you are paying the bills - they do it your way, including you can stay or go from the room as you wish.
As far as an appt goes if it is not convience for you cancel it. I sugguest you cancell it while you think what you want to do. Tell them a conflict appt has come up and you will call them when you know what dates are avaible.
Then call around to other dentists and ASK:
Should a child this age have teeth filled?
Do you take my insurance?
Do you allow parents in the room with their children?
If you are going to let them walk all over you,let me know, I have some swamp land I like to get rid of.
Carl
2006-12-11 13:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally no I don't think you're being over-protective. My mom almost slugged a dentist because upon seeing me his first words were "Well you're going to need braces aren't you?!". He later pulled my teeth without telling me what the heck was going on (I was around 5-6). And from then on I've been terrified of dentists to the point of panic attacks...I have to be sedated just for them to clean my teeth. If anything at all makes you uncomfortable then switch dentists. Personally you've listed enough of things that would have made me seriously uncomfortable that I would switch and then warn my friends and family off them as well.
2006-12-11 14:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I don't believe you are over protective. but
I talked to a pediatric dental assistant. and she said that the reason they don't want the parents back in the treatment room is the kids are more emotional and scared with parents present. well guess what till my kids are at least 10 if I can be where they are being treated whether by a Dr or a dentist they are not going to go...too much abuse in this world even by Dr ect.
2006-12-11 17:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not overly protective it would make me mad when my boyfriend went to the dentist i had our son with me and we were in the kids waiting room well this like one year old went with the dentist but the mom stayed out in the waiting room and i said i would never do that and i didnt understand why she let that happen then i asked my mom about it and she said that they never let her in the room either with any of us isnt that rediculis at least i think it is
2006-12-11 13:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i would have been mad too. i don't know if i would go back or not...but then again it is something she needs to have looked at. if you do decide to go back i would demand that you want to be in the room and if they don't let you then i would just leave cause that is kinda dangerous i think nowadays to leave a little girl like that alone with a some older guy you don't know
i wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-11 13:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by amyw7313 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does seem kinda weird. I'd probably cancel the appoitment and take her to a different dentist.
2006-12-11 13:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Scissors!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust these people with my child. Don't you dare let them work on her. Find a new dentist on the double.
2006-12-11 13:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's Ma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋