my sister sleeps around even with my now x husband she has hurt me deeply how do i forgive and forget when it still hurts so much
2006-12-11 13:16:18 · 20 answers · asked by beatrice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is now my x husband i've remarried and trying to get my life back now my sister is now sleeping with my brother in law i feel she is always trying to mess with my happiness i'm really tied
2006-12-11 13:56:25 · update #1
that's foul....but i'll put it this way...jesus christ died on the cross for all of our sins....if he can forgive then so can we....men are a dime a dozen but a sister is forever....maybe not now while the pain is still deep but later on you will be able to sit down with her and let her know how you feel....then maybe you guys can get past this....
2006-12-11 13:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by sutherngirl_dc 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
She's your sister! You should absolutely forgive her. It's the ex-husband you shouldn't forgive. She will always be there, she's blood. Yes, it is a pretty unforgivable thing she did, but she wasn't thinking and if she does this thing regularly, then it didn't mean anything to her. If it's really bothering you, tell her, she can sleep around and be as promiscuous as she wants, but the men you have slept with are off limits. You would never sleep with anyone she has slept with.
2006-12-11 13:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by eriepachick1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I would forgive her and leave her out of my life. She has some major issues and should have known that even though he was and is an x husband. A sister would never think of doing such a thing. She needs some counseling. And I would not trust her with a stick of gum and certainly would not want her in my life. However, this is your choice. I could live without a sister like this. God bless****
2006-12-11 13:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you would be unable to get her to forgive you, that's only one thing which will take time and she or he won't in any respect forgive. Your son on the different hand is an completely distinctive concern and the main mandatory. If she has your son, call the police. She has no ideal to maintain him except there is an instantaneous probability to him, wherein case she ought to call the police. And if it incredibly is a controversy of everyone or something being undeserving, that's as much as the courts to come back to a determination. the two way, no longer getting your son back and her retaining him from you looks undesirable for the the two one among you. i will purely think of what that poor newborn could be dealing with.
2016-10-05 04:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until you find peace within yourself regarding the situation, you would not be able to forgive her just yet. she's hurt you deeply and it will take time to heal. you'll eventually forgive her some day. just not right now.
watch the movie "In Her Shoes". This is the one with Cameron Diaz. This might give you an insight of how your sister might think or act.
if your husband loves you and worships you, he will not cheat on you no matter what the temptations might be.
2006-12-11 14:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by apple bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave your sister alone. She wants to be like you. Your sister only cares about how to make her life happy. She has no respect for you at all. She is a ungrateful person. It sounds to me that you are a leader. Your sister is a follower. If your own sister treats you like a stranger. Then you need to tell her how you feel. Stop letting her take advantage of you. If you don't she will always be in control of your life.
2006-12-11 14:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by resa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that for a woman do that, she is clearly in some sort of terrible pain herself. Of that I am sure. No one would commit such an act of betrayal unless they themselves were in terrible emotional pain themselves. I am talking about deep-rooted psychological pain. Her thinking is clearly warped. A quote just popped into my head, I think from the Bible, even though I am not Christian: "Pray for them, for they know not what they do." The first step to forgiveness is to just open your mind to the possibility, which you have already done. Keep on the path you're on... I wish you and your family peace.
2006-12-11 13:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a choice. Choose to forgive your sister. It takes two to tango. You can't change your sister and how she is, but you can choose your men, a little more better. You get a good one and he wont go 50 feet near your sister.
2006-12-11 13:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive, but don't forget to watch your man. She wil be after him next. You jus need to perform guard duty on your man anytime she is around or find a way to move away from her (Unless moves to). I would carry pepper spray, so if she flirts with your hubby, you just spray her. LOL.
2006-12-11 14:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should forgive your sister, but don't forget, it takes two to tango and your husband is guilty too.
2006-12-11 13:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by volkgal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋