Tomorrow i am going to a shrink for the first time and i kinda um do some emo-ish stuff, should i tell the proffesional. I dont really want my mom to know though because she'll think its her fault. It isn't it is all my fault for being such a loser
2006-12-11 13:05:06 · 11 answers · asked by Bluehoodie 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell him everything. Be as honest as possible. It's the only way he can really help you. And most of the time, you can tell him to keep things confidential from your mom so you have nothing to worry about.
2006-12-11 13:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Junbei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to be honest w/the "shrink." By emo-ish stuff, do you mean cutting?
The whole point of going to a psychiatrist is to get help for emotional issues. If you start out by keeping information hidden, then you are wasting time and your parents' money.
Be upfront! That is the only way you will receive the help/support you need.
Do not call yourself, or think of yourself as, a "loser."
Good luck! Seeing a "shrink," is nothing to be embarrassed about. It is a sign of strength and admitting you need some help is the first step on your way to feeling better about yourself and your life.
2006-12-11 13:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I safely assume that the emo-ish stuff is self injury or self abuse(cutting, burning, etc.)? Don't worry, they've seen that stuff before. Your mom will probably find out eventually, but if you don't want to tell her right away you can talk to the therapist about how much confidentiality there will be. I would recomend talking about this first. You may be able to work out a deal where he doesn't tell your mom about this as long as you make a promise to tell her yourself or something. I don't know much about their policies but I'm pretty sure that you can work something out. You need to be as honest with them as you can, so yes, I would tell them. You don't have to tell them this first time, but for the therapy to help you at all they need to know. They're not going to be angry with you or try to make you feel bad about it, they only reason they're there is to help you out. They are going to do everything they can to help you with this, but you're going to have to help them first by cooperating. It's good that you are taking responsibility and saying that it isn't your mom's fault, but you're not a loser and it's thinking like that that makes people weak. You may feel that you are a loser now but if you can turn that thinking around and say "I was a loser, but now I am chosing to change that." you will be able to decide how you want to be. You probably don't want to be a loser, do you? Good luck tomorrow.
2006-12-11 13:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by starr_wix_wickens_aka.starreyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read it all before you make a decision.
Are you really a loser? I'd doubt that very much. But if you are it's OK, losing is a part of the game life. We can't all win all the time. Fact is, in knowing you lost, your ahead of the game! There's nowhere to go but up. Life will get better sooner or later, I promise! You just have to keep putting in the time until "YOU" decide to make your life better for yourself.
Feelings will happen, you can't really change that, but you can learn other ways of coping and dealing with them. How you react to feelings is a choice, "YES, A CHOICE" and how you react, you can change. you can learn, over time, to deal with situations and feelings in new, productive, Positive ways. To turn anger into productivity instead of violence, and destructiveness. To turn sadness into caring and helping others. These exact definitions of behavior may or may not apply to you, I just used them to illustrate a point. These things are possible.
The shrink can help you with this. Be honest, he needs to understand the situations and thinking processes you go through to help you figure out a way for you to change yourself. Ask him to, "Not tell Mom", and he won't. I hope you find a way to deal with what your going through. Changing takes work and/or effort on your part, but if you want to change, and are willing to do what ever it takes, you will. I have faith in you even if you may not have it in yourself. Do your best, and you'll end up being the best.
2006-12-11 14:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bob L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your visits to the doctor are confidential. If you do not want your mom to know then tell him that and he will honor those wishes. Be sure and tell the doctor all of your problems. Otherwise it will be hard to help you. And you are not a loser, your illness makes you feel that way. Once you start mending you will see, I saw it just by reading your post.
2006-12-11 14:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by g49joeybethl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in order for therepy to work you have to be 100% honest with the therepist. I'm not sure about minors, but usually a doctor is bound to confidentially so I don't think he has to tell your mother.
2006-12-11 13:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by rockergirl20032003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you think is what is
What you think you make happen
What you think is the most import thing to you
in the world, do not let others make you decisions
You can be a winner
If you think you can win
2006-12-11 13:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go fook himself, and get yourself happy, by healthy eating, and exercise and mixing with the right people..
unless you are really ill, not one of them american's with "issues"
i.e. "i've got issues, my counsellor thinks I should rearrange my life goals"....suck my p o o - hole..
2006-12-11 13:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by Im a killer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emoish stuff thats flippen insulting not all emos are crazy flippen physcos that want to kill themselves
2006-12-11 13:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Xx Slit Wrists & Sorry Notes xX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell them anything that you want to. everything you say is kept just between you and the counselor. good luck.
2006-12-11 13:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by laura s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋