I have three children 11, 6, and 4. The only solution to their questions are arguments. Please help! Will I have to deal with this until they turn 18 and move out?
2006-12-11 12:37:35 · 4 answers · asked by juicy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
there will probably rivalry indefinitely. teach them to compromise and discuss rather than argue. show by example. also show them how to find answers to their questions . just dont get into the middle . treat each one differently but equal. they each are very different people. most important ... love them.
2006-12-11 12:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you are the parent and you need to set boundaries with this stuff. I grew up in a large family (7) and there was ALOT of this. However, there were boundaries and consequences! I used that on my own children! Hitting each other was never allowed no matter who started it! I told them to pick your battles. If they don't want to share something keep it put away! You have to lay the law down especially if this behavior spills into the "world". Follow threw with your consequences is the very most important thing you can do with your children. Use what works for your family if you want peace. Good luck!
2006-12-11 23:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to much time on their hand for them to be together you need to find thing that they can do not together but by them selfs right now they are all at ages where there finding out who they are. Your 11year old is starting to find parts of their bodys that wasn't their before. Your 6 is learning that it is okay to be who they want to be because their in school now and they hear it all the time and their mind are growing so fast that they don't know what to do with all the stuff that is in their . Then you have the 4 year old they are the only one left the baby and wants to stay the baby so as much as they can their going to act like a baby . So you try to find thing to go with what their going through. The 11 try to spend time one on one,6 anything that gives him more to learn but is fun. and the 4 and thing that make them feel like the baby of the family but not a baby learn games but not the same one *** the 6year olds
2006-12-11 13:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none! Just accept this as part of their growing up. Believe me, they still argue past 18 or till when they go separate ways. Usually, they become close AFTER they set up their own homes.
2006-12-11 12:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋