Any one know any insprational books to get someone who is going through cancer. My moms going thourgh ovairan cancer and I cant get her to see anything positive about anything. I just want her to have a positive look on things.
2006-12-11 12:36:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
My mom had cancer a year ago. She felt so depressed...it was hard to see her like that. But I found that, with time, I could get her to see all the good things she had. Remind your mom of her friends, family, the people who came to her when she was diagnosed. Getting over this, may just take time. Giving her all your love, and perhaps some time just with you and her, may help her.
2006-12-11 12:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Milwaukee_Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother fought her battle with lung cancer for 18 months. I fought this battle with her and in doing so found the best "thing" I could do for my mother was just to "be there."
Books can explain a lot of the process, books can "tell" about survivors, books can try to give hope and inspiration but nothing is as good as having some one there with you.
I was the "sounding board" for her sorrows and pain, I was the one who relived her memories with her, I was there when she was angry and in the "why me" stage, and as her condition became worse, I was there to get hugs and kisses from her before she left this world.
Just be there for her and know in this you have gave her something to see a "positive." Positive in the fact that she raised her daughter to be a caring person and that is a gift to the world.
2006-12-11 21:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rincy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A positive outlook is one of the best things she can have, when you feel positive your body reacts in positive ways. Negativity causes your body to focus more on stress & has many bad effects- including hindering her recovery process. I am so sorry for your pain, I know how tough it is to see your mom (in my case mother inlaw- but loved her like my mom) go through cancer treatments with a negative attitude. things are much easier when they make the decision to beat it or at least try to. Just always tell her you love her & try to reinforce happy thoughts. She may just be feeling so sick from the treatments that her spirits have been stomped on. Please hang in there & be tough, dont be afraid to cry & always tell her you love her more than anything. make special gestures towards her, flowers, cards, etc... I made my MIL scrap book pages of my daughter & her to help her remember the happy times & try to strive to make it for more.
I will pray for you & her & hope that you can help her see the 'bright' side of things, but remeber that she is in a very scary place right now and defenses are up. Good luck!
2006-12-11 20:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Justkerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to go support group, the hospital or clinic should have handy info for referrals. Also, go your local library and find the book that can keep her mind in peace and fill with hope. The librarian is able to help you ....
Family and friends are close to her. A big card with a big heart and smile will make her spirit up.....
Keep praying for her and show her that He has promises for her...
2006-12-11 20:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by ☃FrostyGal♪♬♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't force her to do anything, you aren't the one with cancer. all cancer patients go through stages. it's normal. right now, this is the way she wants to feel. when she is ready, she will be better. in the mean time, try to find a book about the emotional stages that cancer patients go through. that way maybe she will have something to relate to and not feel so alone.
2006-12-11 20:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the american cancer society. I had cervical cancer. I went through all my treatments and i am cured. Learn all you can and keep a positive attitude. Most cancers are so cureable these days. the american cancer society really helped me
2006-12-15 13:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear that.I would suggest a support group for others going through cancer.My dad had prostate cancer and he was depressed and ended up on anti-depressants.He pulled through and I will pray to Jesus that your mom does too.GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR MOM AND GOD BLESS!
2006-12-11 20:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I wore Lipstick to my Masectomy" by Gerilyn Lucas
The author had breast cancer but she had this really great attitude about it.
I have a support group website
Your mom can also find support there
http://www.shareyourstory.net.tc
2006-12-11 20:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she needs time to accept it. i am dealing with cancer myself and sometimes its hard to be positive. i am sure your mom is scared too.
2006-12-11 20:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs more support, instead of giving her a book.
2006-12-11 20:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋