My bf always plays video games for hours before he even starts his homework at the last minute. Every time he does that, he'd stay up all the night. It seems like he does things at very last minute. If I say something, he'd snap and talk back with attitude. It got to the point where he hung my laptop by hand as he yelled at me. Not a long time ago, I tried to get him the counseling and he refused to take it seriously. Should I back out and run from this relationship?
2006-12-11 12:15:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Video Games are EXTREMELY addicting (especially the online ones). I love video games, and it's likely that I'll never stop playing them.
I'm in a relationship myself (married actually) and it is difficult to balance playing games and giving my wife attention, but it MUST be done. I probably spend an average of 2-3 hrs a day playing video games (and I still feel like to play too much) compared to about 8 hrs before I got married.
If he truly has feelings for you then he'll cut back. Try to talk with him. Make sure he knows you don't mind him playing games, but you want his attention too. Perhaps you can talk him into creating a schedule for game time. That way you both KNOW when he's going to play games and you can plan to do something productive while he's doing that, or hang out with some of your friends. If it looks like you're heading towards an argument just make sure you don't raise your voice. He can't yell at you for too long if you're not yelling back.
Also, be reasonable. Don't expect him to jump from 8 hrs (or what ever he's at) to 2 hrs instantly. Few people can do that. Find a program you can both agree on.
I'm assuming you're living together, so you'll likely want him to come to bed w/ you at a reasonable hour. For me, I find I get most of my game time after my wife has gone to bed. I try to wait until she goes to sleep and then get up and play games for a couple hours. She knows I do this and I'm honest about how much time I've spent when she asks me. I can't tell you if he'll be the same way.
If you can convince him to come to bed w/ you he'll likely be tempted to sneak out and play for awhile...hopefully you're a light sleeper. Try keeping the door closed so you might hear it open if he leaves. Set an alarm to wake after a few hours to see where he's at. If no alarm woke you up then check it in the morning to see if it was changed or turned off. Also consider letting him play for a little bit after you go to bed and use the same techniques to see if he comes to bed on time.
I'm rambling.....
In the end, just make sure he knows you really want his attention, and that you don't expect him to stop playing, just to cut back so you can enjoy his time. Don't give him an ultimatum unless you have to.
2006-12-11 12:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sirconis Lychen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does have a problem he cannot control - but your yelling at him is probably making him angry - he beginning to think you are his mother - and this is probably something he has heard many years from her - and the last thing he wants is to hear it from you. but, nevertheless he does have an addiction problem. i hope he finds this problem within himself to correct. i wouldn't run from this relationship but continue to let him know that he has a problem and HE needs to deal with it - tell him he has to grow up, face life and make the corrections he needs to do to become a MAN. you are not trying to be his mommie in this situation but he has to stand back and take a good look at himself, otherwise he will never grow up. i wish you both a good life. i hope he cares enough to change.
2006-12-11 12:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you ask me i would say keep working on it i was the same way but slowly i am getting better at putting first things first. but i think most important thing you can do now is what your mind tells you to do, because people will just tell you diffrent things and in the end your are the one who makes the decision so yea. do what you please and be proud of it. well all i have to say hope i helped take care now.
2006-12-11 12:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by sweeper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hes a guy thats what they do lol they are all crazy in some way matter of fact that sounds like my husband and he grew out of it so hang in there.
2006-12-11 12:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Mommi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's an addict... I was one... & behaved like that... leave or stay? Move on, I'm afraid... it'll help him... & you... &, no, he won't run off w/ someone else... he's got his addiction...
2006-12-11 12:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by K V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say.........yes, run as fast as you can. I bet he wont even notice you're gone.
2006-12-11 12:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes the next thing you know his anger might get the best of him and you might get hurt
2006-12-11 12:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by ***** K K ***** 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if treating your laptop like that dump him
2006-12-11 12:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant run fast enought.
2006-12-11 12:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋