She can't help me with my homework, at all. She doesn't know how. She got mad at me for no reason again today!
2006-12-11 12:13:33 · 20 answers · asked by V H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For one thing your mom was alive a long time before she even met your dad- so she is making it through life through a combination of her own efforts, luck and the love of others- just like you will. She is trying to raise you to be a good person and you will sometimes think she is mean. That is normal. As for not being able to help you with your homework- maybe she is not good at that particular subject. She is human. Thanks to her, so are you.
2006-12-11 12:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your mother's creation. She doesn't try to hurt you. It took me over 4 years to understand why my mother treated me like she did. I didn't have friends until I moved in with my father because my mother wouldn't let me speak to anyone on the phone or hang out at their house or anything. I thought that she was the worst mother in the world, but do you want to know something? The friends that I wanted to hang out with where my mother lived are all drug heads and some of my classmates have babies. I understand, now, why my mother didn't want me to hang out with them. They were drinking and smoking pot behind the school all of the time.
You mother will be your best friend in the future. Sometimes she will be the only person that you can turn to if you have a problem and need a shoulder to cry on. Don't say hurtful things to her by saying that she only made it through life because of your father. That won't help her any.
If she sent you to your room, make a card or draw something on Microsoft paint and print it out for her. Put it in her jacket pocket or under her pillow. Don't just walk up and hand it to her. She will find the card/picture in the future and really think of how much that she cares about you.
She will be your best friend in the future, I promise.
2006-12-11 20:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made it through life because of your dad? Um.. it sounds like you are repeating something your father told you. It doesn't necessarily mean it's true. I know I don't know you, but the way it sounds is you are definitely not being objective here.
If she got mad at you for no real reason like you say, then ask her what is really bothering her and if you could help her in any way. You would want her to do the same for you, right?
2006-12-11 20:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pashta 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your mom can't help you with your homework, just let her go. Don't mock or taunt her for not knowing how because it has been a long time since she was in school at the same age as you. Start with "I do not mean to upset you or anything." Then ask her what's wrong. If she won't talk, ignore her for time being.
2006-12-11 20:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my mom is the same way, so I feel your pain! Honestly, there is no changing someone else...so really the only thing you can do is change the way you handle the situation when she gets angry for no reason. What she wants is a response, an argument to blow off stress and place anger onto you and off of her. Just respond with kindness and try to do your best to stay out of her way. I know this is really really hard...because we are taught to stand up for ourselves, and it can be VERY difficult to bite your tongue, but eventually she will stop if you don't react....good luck!
2006-12-11 20:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by *ladybug* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure she didn't make it through life because of your dad alone, I have never helped my son with his homework because it is alot different now than when i went. maybe if you explained it to her she could. and mothers dont get mad for some reason, you must of done something that she didn't like. sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel try working with her so you can get a good relationship for you. good luck.
2006-12-11 20:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity and inferiority sometimes causes anger. These are negative emotions that can hinder relationships. Family therapy may be indicated to help you and your mother gain tools for dealing and communicating with each other in a constructive and safe manner. She needs to get to the root cause of her anger so she does not inappropriately dump her feelings on you.
2006-12-11 20:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by SunFun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its really not fair , or right, for you to get mad at your mom because she doesn't know how to do your homework for you. And guess what smartie pants, you only made it through life because OF your mom AND dad. She had a choice to have you, choose to honor her. Just my two cents.
2006-12-11 20:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by volkgal 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
being a parents a tough job especailly wiht the homework they send home with you kids these days maybe somethings wrong with your mom and she doesnt wanna talk about it. she cant help it if she didnt learn what they are teaching u at school maybe shes mad at herself that she cant help u. i would say find a friend who can help ya and quit doggin on your mom moms do the best they can i have a boy in jr high and a boy in high school ive been to college and cant do thier math crap
2006-12-11 20:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by kissfan1979 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you can have a family discussion, giving e/one a chance to put their issues on the table. E/one may come away learning something. And who knows, you may discover your mom isnt mean at all.
2006-12-11 20:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋