My poor grandmother has been having a lot of stuff going on and she's had a lot on her mind since my grandpa has been sick recently. I can understand how she might have forgotten to call, I mean, it's something we've all done, and I tried to explain that to her but she's really shook up and I think she was crying! I feel so horrible and I don't know what to say to help her feel better and let her know in another way that it's ok.
2006-12-11 12:12:18 · 17 answers · asked by Hola Lola! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks for all of your help!
2006-12-11 12:15:58 · update #1
umm, yea I didn't bring it up; SHE called me to apologize
2006-12-11 12:28:16 · update #2
I would'nt have even brought it up, knowing everything that HAS been going on. Figuring she has been there with you your whole life, her love is enough. Im sure you know she loves you. But she didnt have to call. Your birthday isnt the most special thing in the world.
I know my grandparents love me. They dont have to call me on my birthday for me to know that.
2006-12-11 12:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither of my grandmas ever call me or acknowledge my birthday. Just keep telling her that you know it's because she has had a lot on her mind. Ask her if she wants to go out for lunch or something and make sure you tell her that it's no big deal. Better yet, maybe not talk about it all. If you keep bringing it up, she might think it really offended you. Good luck!
2006-12-11 20:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Aww, that's so sweet! Don't worry, she'll calm down. If she's stressed over your grandpa being sick, everything is probably making her cry right now. Just talk to her, try to make her laugh to get her mind off things, or better yet, go visit, if you can, help with grandpa. Don't fret, it'll be fine!
2006-12-11 20:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok. Calm down. Here's what you need to do.
You need to find your grandma and tell her you want to sit down and talk. Tell her that you are not mad or angry, and that you completely forgive her. Tell her we all make mistakes. And then tell her how you feel, and you think both of you would feel so much better if she lets it go, and that it doesen't really matter. Be sure she understands that you completely forgive her and still love her all the same, regardless.
2006-12-11 20:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just give her a kiss on the cheek and say grandma, please don't give it another thought, i know you love me and i'm not expecting anything from you. i know you are going through a rough time with grandpa and i'm the one who should be helping you - don't worry about me - just love me and let me know that you'll always love me - it's not the remembrance of an occasion that counts - but the love we give to another - and i know that's something you have always done - so please don't think that i ever feel i lost out because you have given more than you'll ever know. the main thing is that we all love each other.
2006-12-11 20:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try hinting broadly at her that you really, REALLY want something for your birthday, but nobody bought it for you and you can't afford to get it. Then let her play the heroine by promising it to you or rushing out to get it! You can act all happy that she bought it for you, and she'll feel like she saved the day.
For this to really count, it's got to be something you know she can easily afford. (Your parents probably know better than you how much this could be).
2006-12-11 20:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that on Saturday or Sunday you'll come over for lunch. Make a point to go over and spend the day with her.... let her pamper you, make you lunch... let her make a fuss over you. It will mean the world to her...just spend time with her. As parents and grandparents age, all they want is your undivided attention and to spend time with you.
I'm 43.... both my grandma's passed away a few years ago. I would give anything to have them back and do things for them. Believe me...you don't appreciate what you have until you don't have it. Both of them crocheted and I wish they were here to teach me. Neither one lived to see me purchase my house and I would love for them to see my house and how I've decorated it. My point is.... cherish every moment you have with her.
Just spend time with her.... that will make her feel 100% better.
2006-12-11 20:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by QueenChristine 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just go and spend some time with her; ask her to make cookies with you or something like that that will be a nice memory for the two of you; that will make her feel better.
2006-12-11 20:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by F 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take her out to lunch or dinner and have a heart to heart with her and realy tell her how you feel. Tell her you understand everything she has been going through, and how much you love her, and I am sure she will realy feel better after that. Good Luck
2006-12-11 20:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by BB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just stop and get her a card the next time you are out and let her know that you love her and that just having her around means more than any birthday phone call
2006-12-11 20:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Charlene I 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋