I have liked a guy at school, who happens to be from India, for a long time now. Just recently I got up the courage to give him my phone number and he called me. Now we e-mail eachother also. But I have heard so many horror stories and one of which is from a close friend of mine in which her ex who was also from India started out as a perfect guy and then abused her. So now I'm scared about whether or not he is being truthful or just using me. He is here on a student visa for only 2yrs. I like him but can not read him. I have tried to find out more about how his culture views women but have come to a road block. Please help!!!!!
2006-12-11 12:02:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about Hindu? What if your bf had been from another country? The stories happen all over the world..
Other people stories are stories of other people. Your story is yours...
I also love Indian guy and also cannot read him easily. But I love him and I can see behind his little words but due to his actions he also loves me.
2006-12-12 22:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u doubting 'cos he is an Indian or 'cos he is a Hindu?There is no such generic definition that states that Indians (or so to say of any other nationality) or Hindus are more dangerous than others. It depends on the individual. You need to spend more time to find out his nature before you can take a call.
2006-12-11 15:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Subhasis G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey..lemme tell u sumthing, sum guys r bad n sum r gud, but then again....in india the culture is bit conservative n very traditional, hindus have many customes and ideologies that u just wont find easy to digest as ur not one of em......u'r freedom will be clipped big time coz even if u follow the nuclear family thingy, u'l still gonna have to be careful as to not go too far with ur western attributes...ppl may not take it too well u know...besides even if the guy is very understanding n all, he'll still have to go by what his society, culture n family says.....trust me, am from a mixed cultural bkgrnd n i find it hard to digest all this tradition n stuff, kinda hampers freedom!
2006-12-11 17:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hindu religion has nothing to do with being a good partner in a relationship, and all religion, for that matter. But i can say indian guys are nice and calm. If that's what you like in a guy, it's a good bet.
2006-12-11 13:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by desiman925 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are really nice and some guys are really bad regardless of race. And a lot of Hindu guys know that women are their equal. Some are stupid and don't though. Each guy is different so it's hard to give advice on what to do. In Hinduism there are a lot of goddesses that will kick his butt if he isn't nice to you :) Saraswati, kali, bunch of others.
2006-12-11 12:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be too fast, first both of u be friends know each other u ask him abt his family and other relatives ask him how open they are and sum general questions be good friends and once u come to know how his family background is then u can decide further......
But let me tell u one thing that we indians may be hindu muslims or catholics are very caring we dont hurt anybody unless n until the person in front of us say anything regarding our country or our people.
take care, all the best, god bless u
2006-12-11 18:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by pearly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey...donot judge all at par. men are different from one to one. they hav their priorities the way u too have. do u like him and u want him? convince him 100%. make him involve within u. Make sure that when u r loving, parents also should know that u r seeing each other.
And again....try accepting the things as they come in ur life. Nothing is under our control. The cyclones, rain...death, love or any thing.
Take care...all the best in ur love life.
2006-12-11 15:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple years ago I was in your shoes. My ex-boyfriend was an Iranian immigrant. I had a few people say stuff like he'll force me to move to Iran and/or kidnap any kids we'd have, etc. etc. You just gotta trust your gut and be honest with your guy about your concerns.
2006-12-11 12:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by shyvicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him better, what is the hurry? Better yet, ask him the question straightforward and see what he replies to it. Many men in India are responsible and caring. Just don't be too forward. Show that you value yourself and he will respect you too.
2006-12-11 13:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Hindu male my self.. & as far as i know my culture we are to respect women & honor their pride & integrity .. if he is a true Hindu he will get angry but never raise a hand at you.. this is wat i am taught by my parents so.. it is a fact taught to all Hindus'.. hope that helps a bit..
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2006-12-11 12:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by chirayu1990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋