Is divorce ever okay with God, aside from adultery and abuse?

Question

What if you just aren't in love anymore? Am I really doing a good thing by staying with my husband only out of obligation?

Answer 1

I think God wants us to be happy and if you aren't happy with someone anymore then why would God force you to stay with them? Yes I think that divorce is OK but should not be taken lightly. Try to work it out first. Whether that means therapy or not depends.

Answer 2

There are lots of verses in the bible speaking of divorce. Now if your husband is abusing you, you definitly need to get away. But, since you say that this is not the case, then take a gander at this:


But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they shall be one flesh, they shall no longer be alone, but one flesh. And what therefor God has joined together let no man put asunder.---------------- And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she commiteth adultery. These passages are in Mark 10. I have skipped some things and just wrote what I thought would pertain to you. I have been in a similar situation and what I want to do, is challenge you. I want to challenge you to pray for your husband. If you will pray about this situation and especailly pray for him, your marriage can be strengthened, even if he is not a believer. It says in the bible that a woman must stay with a man even if he does not believe and she must be faithful and submissive to him. That he may come to believe by his wifes example. If you are not feeling in love with your husband anymore, the problem lies with you, not him. Even if you feel like he has provoked your feelings. You are the one saying that you are not in love. Please try to make things work, before you make this decision. In Christs love, Cat

Answer 3

Co 7:10 I instruct married couples to stay together, and this is exactly what the Lord himself taught. A wife who leaves her husband
1Co 7:11 should either stay single or go back to her husband. And a husband should not leave his wife.
1Co 7:12 I don't know of anything else the Lord said about marriage. All I can do is to give you my own advice. If your wife isn't a follower of the Lord, but is willing to stay with you, don't divorce her.
1Co 7:13 If your husband isn't a follower, but is willing to stay with you, don't divorce him.
1Co 7:14 Your husband or wife who isn't a follower is made holy by having you as a mate. This also makes your children holy and keeps them from being unclean in God's sight.
1Co 7:15 If your husband or wife isn't a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace.
1Co 7:16 And besides, how do you know if you will be able to save your husband or wife who isn't a follower?

Answer 4

Jesus stated that you can divorce on earth, but God would not consider it a divorce. Read Mark chapter 10. It says that Jesus said,"...But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife. and the 2 shall become one flesh....therefore whatever God has put together, no human being must separate...whoever divorces his wife or husband and marries another has commited adultery..." Remember your vows at marriage..."for better or for worse..til death do you both apart." Perhaps counseling would benefit both of you.I will pray for you!

Answer 5

Here's your answer in Jesus' words: "Whoever divorces his wife must give her a written notice of divorce. But I tell you, everyone who divorces his wife, except in a case of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

So what He was saying that was unless there was sexual immorality involved that it is not okay because you have made a commitment before God and become one with this person. God wanted us to stay with the first person we married (or made love to, rather) or else adultery would not be a sin. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Yes, you are! Remember your vows, for better or worse? I guess if you are not feeling "in -love" you kinda have the for worse for right now. But people may fluctuate in feelings. <--- That is normal. Can many people out there really say that they've never had a tiff w/a friend or best friend? You may not feel as close to them or dislike them for a while while you are going thru it. Spousal relationships are no different. Divorce is the easy way out instead of sticking it thru & working it out. This may pass. Especially if you have kids, the bible encourages that you stay together & work it out for their sake. That takes willingness to be selfless & not wanna have it all! Strength & Best Wishes to you! {hug}
But... the Apostle Paul did say that if an unbelieving spouse wants to leave...

Answer 7

i do not believe figuring out on to be unhappy or chuffed. it truly is purely achievable that someone's' better 0.5 is making them so depressing that they could be able to't 'choose to be at liberty' So for sure, there are motives besides adultery and abuse. I do believe in attempting very demanding if there are youthful ones in contact even with the reality that. yet both events must be keen to attempt.

Answer 8

Fornication and adultery are the only Scriptural grounds for the innocent mate to obtain a divorce. Abuse could be a good reason to get a separation, but not a divorce. Matt. 19:9

Answer 9

You need to remind yourself of the marrage vows, and truly no what it means to be COMITTED FOR LIFE. To achieve intimacy in your relationship, both you and your partner must consciously agree to share your true selves with each other. Your partner must know who you truly are so he/she can love the real you. But before this can happen, you have to know the real you. You have to know what you honestly feel. You have to remove the layers of resistance which conceal buried or repressed emotions so that these emotions can surface and be integrated into your present system. The good news is that many people have been successful in reclaiming their disowned emotions.

Answer 10

I believe that if men and women treated each other right, according to how the Bible says we should treat one another, there would be a whole lot less divorce.

Did you know that the Bible says that a husband should never treat or speak to, his wife harshly? And that a wife should submit herself to her husband's authority? And that Husband's are supposed to love their wives with the same love that Jesus had for the church? And that Wives should love their hubands with the same love that they have for Jesus?

Just think what the world would be like if all husband's and wives treated each other like this?