If you are in a serious relationship, is it wrong to still talk to your ex when there is no love between you?

Question

I dated this man for about 6 months. We broke up about 2 years ago but we are still good friends. Now I am in the relationship that is pretty serious and my ex still still calls me every so often. Our conversations are pretty innocent. He just finds it easy to talk me about things that go on in his life. When he has things on his mind that is when he generally calls. I have not seen him face to face in over a year. But my man now does not know this. I seriously did not think about it until my ex just recently called me. I do not know if I should just tell him that I am in a relationship and not to call me or to tell my man now about the situation. I have no desire for my ex at all. He is cool, he is just not for me. He has not given any indications that he would want anything else from me other than conversation. I just don't know what the right or the wrong thing to do here.

Answer 1

You must know the answer to that already. If you have,t told your boyfriend yet then you must know it must be wrong. Just think of your man talking to his ex behind your back? Would you be happy about that? Probably not!

Answer 2

The best thing for you to do, without a doubt, would be to tell your current man about the ongoing phone calls with the ex, and be sure to speak clearly about the innocence of them. Apologize to him for not telling him sooner, and sincerely consider his opinion on the matter. If he says he's uncomfortable with this relationship with your ex, best bet is to make those conversations an ex as well.

If the relationship is as serious as you say it is, your man should understand your need to talk to other guys and even keep in contact with someone who played a major role in your life at one point. He should also trust you when you reassure him that these phone calls were innocent.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you should have asked your question before you let the children know. Now your question is to late. You have already enter the forbidden area. You and your sister probaly don't get along because you've done this before and you said you two have been in love for a while. You think your sister didn't know her sister had the hots for her man. You could possibly be one of the reasons for the divorce. I think you should end this, no good is going to come from this. How loyal can a man be if he can love his own wife's sister and for a while now. She your older sister, right. You really need to apologize. It's hard enough to have a marriage end and have to raise children. On top of that have your sister become your kids step Mon and auntie. It's like those creepy soap operas.

Answer 4

I would say no, it is not wrong to talk to an ex. I am currently in a serious relationship, yet I still talk to an ex of mine. We dated for over a year, but we are still friends. My current boyfriend (of more than 5 years) knows that I talk to my ex, and he is fine with it, because he knows our relationship is solid. Hiding it from your current boyfriend is what seems wrong. If he finds out you were hiding such a thing, I think he would be more likely to be suspicious.

Answer 5

Nothing is wrong in a relationship as long as both people are on the same page.
Personally: The more serious I get with a woman, the less I want her to 'be friends with' other men. I don't mean acquintances, but friends with men. I don't normally say it or act jealous, I just don't get serious, until they get serious, which means not going out or talking to other men all the time.

Answer 6

i generally do not see anything wrong with what you are doing, however i think that this issue comes down to a respect thing.
if you are indeed in a serious relationship, you owe it to your partner to be honest and open with him and to not do anything that will upset or stress him.
i think you should tell your partner about your conversations and make it clear that there is nothing going on and give him a chance to express how he feels about your conversations with the ex.
if he approves, yay, be happy and glad.
if he does not, you may have to get your priorities sorted, do you want to make your ex happy or your partner happy?
but honestly, your partner deserves to know, and if you don't tell him and he finds out in another way the outcome maybe very ugly and you may end up losing him for nothing.
so, no secrets, relationships are built on trust and honesty.

Answer 7

Be sure the ex knows you're in a relationship and reassure your current guy that you don't want the ex back. I'm in a relationship and still talk to a few of my exes.

Answer 8

I would tell your man about the situation and let him no that you to havent seen each other that you are just friends.. and that you dont want to be anything more than that..
Its a innocent thing so dont worry bout it me and my ex still talk and we dont love or want to be with each other and my husband thinks it is fine he knows he is the only guy for me so dont worry about it... lots of luck happy holidays

Answer 9

I think it is fine, just as long as you are up front about it with your current boyfriend. I was going through the same thing and now my ex boyfriend is married so there isn't a real problem anymore. I think just as long as you are totally honest it should be cool, but maybe talk to your man about it to know the real answer.

Answer 10

I'd let your new guy know that you and your ex are still friends. That way it won't look like you're trying to "hide" his friendship. I think it's fine to be friends with your ex! My ex-husband and I are still friends and my fiance knows this and is fine with it. You obviously have no more feelings for your ex, so your new guy should be fine with it. :)