I read some e-mails that my boyfrind had savd he does not know i found out that he has been haveing an emotional afair with anther women. I dont know what to do we have been together for four years and we have two kids together
2006-12-11 11:33:25 · 11 answers · asked by Chyka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DUMP HIM!!! Thats crazy essipally when kids are in the situation.
2006-12-11 11:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Miz.Thomas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First let me ask you this...
would you get upset if your neighbor "found" your mail and read it all? How about is someone found your diary and read it? What if a friend went thru your purse?
Do you see where I'm going with this?
WHY did you invade his privacy???
I can even answer that question... because you were trying to find something. Are you happy now?
Anytime you're looking for trouble you absolutely will find it 100% of the time!!!
Now I'm not saying that what he's doing is ok. Not by a long shot. But I'm sure if I rooted thru your personal mailings I could find suspicion too.
Now that you know something might be going on you need to confront it and hope you can work it out.
If you manage to work this out then you need to find a way to get TRUST back in your relationship. You are unable to respect his privacy so he needs to password protect his email acct.
His emails may be perfectly innocent. Talk to him about it. He deserves to know what you've done.
2006-12-11 20:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that, maybe you can try re-connecting and recapture the spark you shared when you first started dating. try not to nag or complain even if he does things that irk you. be upbeat and spontaneous, hopefully he'll start to share those same feelings of the past. talk about funny stories you both shared and remind him how great that made you feel. all relationships require a good amount of effort on the part of both parties. if he sees you enjoying life and feeling good about yourself, he'll eventually join in. don't give up.
2006-12-11 19:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum well the answer is simple u should break up w/ him bcuz wat makes u think he wont do it again and again??? I know it might stop u bcuz u have kids but your not going to be living w/ a player that obviously does not respect u or the fact that u guys have kids together....so the best thing 4 u to do is just break up w him n find somebody better....
2006-12-11 19:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are in the wrong. You should have trusted him instead of going through his emails. Confront him if you think that is best but it will open up a can of worms.
2006-12-11 19:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd respond to those emails and pretend to be him. I'd say my wife found out about our emails and we've decided I will stop communicating with you. PLease don't write again. I need to save my marriage and children Goodbye forever. Then I'd put the women's addresses on block. Maybe it sounds sneaky, but that's what I'd do.
2006-12-11 19:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you know about this situation and that it is unacceptable. if he is interested in her he needs to let you know so that you can make a decision on what you want to do. your children will be alright if you are happy, no matter what decision you make.
2006-12-11 19:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by blackbeauty1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
E-mail the floozy and tell her whats up I bet she doesn't even know your alive. then cancel his account.
2006-12-11 19:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mad Dog Johnson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kids or no kids i would kick him to the curb !
2006-12-11 19:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
would you rather him have a physical affair? I always thought it was better for him to have sex with you and think of someone else, then have sex with someone else and think of you.
2006-12-11 19:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by andyburnham 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋