hey yall and here it is i'm 13 and i'm been going out with this guy and all he is really cute and all and we been going out for awhile hes 15 and i'm 13 and by the way i go by zoey!anyway i luv him and he luvs me,but he keeps asking me to have sex with him he says its time we **** and touch more we have folled around and touched each other we luv toching each other but are we ready plzz let me know help??!!!!!!!!????
2006-12-11 11:07:16 · 29 answers · asked by amanda t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are too young. Sex is special, and you will know when it is the right time and the right guy!
2006-12-11 11:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have sex just because he is pressuring you. When I was your age a good friend that was a little older gave me great advice. My boyfriend was pressuring me. She told me not to have sex because I was pressured into it. She told me that when the time was right it would be natural and unplanned. She was right. I have never regretted saying no to that guy. The only problem with that advice is you do need to think ahead to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. I was woefully ignorant and really lucky that I didn't get pregnant when I finally did have sex. The internet is a great tool. Look up HPV and the LEEP procedure. Look up HIV rates in your age group. Do you realize that there are STDs that you can get even with using a condom? Do you know that condoms fail? Do you know that you can get and transmit some STDs like HPV and herpes without having actual penetration? By the way, the rhythm method does not work. This is big adult stuff. Are you ready to raise a child? Think hard a carefully before having sex. You want your first time to be non-traumatic and hopefully special. Don't let this taint the rest of your life.
2006-12-11 11:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by chicagowoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. At 13, do you really think he is the guy you are going to spend the rest of your life with? I doubt it. Even if you do like him alot.
You shouldn't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do.
I lost my virginity at 13, and looking back now that I'm married, I can't believe how dumb I was.
Just be mindful. Remember that whoever you have sex with, you are letting that person into your body. Your body is a sacred thing.
Personally, I think you'll regret it later. Keep your innocence for as long as you can. Date other guys, and you might find there are better ones out there, and ones who are willing to wait until your ready!
One more thing, mayeb you should go to Planned Parenthood and talk to a counselor there. It might help to talk about it. And, if you decide to have sex, you should at least get on the pill, and use condoms. BOTH. The pills doesn't protect against STD's. Be safe and be smart.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 11:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi I think you already answered the question yourself!
If you're not sure, then you're not ready! I've been around a while, and most of the girls I've known regretted doing it early on, wished they'd waited until later.
There's lots o' other fun things the two of you can do... and from the sounds of it, you're already doing 'em.
Just tell him you don't feel ready - if he really loves you he'll accept that and wait until you are, he won't pester you about it.
F**king has way to many risks, especially at your age. There are increases in certain health risks for girls who have sex in early teens. There are diseases, and the great one - screw up once, get pregnant...
Had a friend, she was young, got preggers first time she did it.
No reason not to wait... and if he really loves you he'll accept that.
-dh
2006-12-11 11:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He** NO. NO WAY. I'm sorry but you are way, way too young to have sex. If he can't wait then how can he say he loves you. You are worth the wait. This is a gift that you can only give away once please DO NOT allow him to pressure you into something you are not emotionally ready for. What if you end up getting pregnant or some disease condoms aren't full proof. PLEASE THINK don't make this mistake tell him if he loves you he'll wait til you are ready. If you lose him then he obviously didn't love you the way he said he did and doesn't deserve your precious gift.
2006-12-11 11:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ya'll are rlly in love then its ok!~!~! As long as its safe sex!~!~! But honestly ur 13 yrs old...and yes im not that much older then u but i know for a fact the boy isn't rlly in love with u...it seems like to me he just wants to get some......but u know i can't tell u what to do...but its a special thing and u rlly need to make sure u are in love before u give it up to some guy!!! Cause once it is gone u can never ever get it back! Best of luck!
2006-12-11 11:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way are you ready for a baby? if your not than wait a few years gurl you've got all the time in the world but a baby is forever.. are you ready for one, i had a baby at 16 and i wasnt ready i had to stop hanging out with my friends and grow up no prom, no dances, no fun... it was go to school come home change diapers.. and deal with a baby all night and then get up and do it all over again..
take ur time being young.. dont do it till ur older.. tell him if he loves you he will wait..
lots of luck.. if you wanna talk hit me up on my messenger..
2006-12-11 11:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Beth m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell to the no. the main point is not your age, although you are too young in my opinion, but the main concern is how you feel. you should not be pressured to do something like this, especially from someone that claims he likes/loves you.. you should wait. if you give in, you will just regret it. the way the movies depict sex is usually not the way sex is experienced in real life. now im not saying sex is a bad thing, but its should be with someone you really care about and when you are ready. its a big issue.. dont get caught up in the "love" or even the "romance" because its easy to get wrapped up in the moment.. just dont do anything you will regret or dont want to do.
THINK ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST, because you are more important than his opinion!
you are sooo young and the fact that you care about this situation shows that you are smart and mature. if he doesnt understand he is not worth your time homegurl. i cant tell you to leave him, i dont even know you, but if he doesnt relax and give you your space, it will not work. you are young and that means there will be plenty of boys, some great some bad. pick and choose them wisely. dont commit to easily... you dont wanna look like a slut right? hahaha but seriously take care of yourself :-)
my friend had this problem and listened to her boyfreind instead of her freinds... im not saying your boyfreind is like her ex-boyfriend... but her boyfreind ended up leaving her.
goood luck!
2006-12-11 14:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by international it girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait if I were you....just recently there was an article about a 13 year old girl who had sex with her boyfriend, (who was 12), and his parents found out and had her arrested for statutory rape. She was a suspect and a victim all at the same time........PLEASE wait. If your bf really loves you, he'll be willing to wait too!!!!
Good Luck!!
2006-12-11 11:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by luvsbjs_418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You’re too young to be worrying about sex. If he really loves you then he will respect your decision to stay a virgin. Just remember sex to a girl can often symbolize love but to a guy its just physical.
Don’t do anything you will regret later
2006-12-11 11:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should wait. you have your whole life to have sex. whats the rush? there are so many responsibilities that come along with sex. too many to handle at 13. if your bf does not respect that, then u r better off w/o him and you will be thankful you did not have sex with someone that does not respect you.
2006-12-11 11:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋