Why Sex before marriage is not allowed?

Question

As being muslim we have been told that Sex not allowed but only with ur wife. well i am now 25 still virgin. I always believe and still believe that religions sets some limitations in ppl life that make them better person and there is always understandable logic behind these rules.
I am been thinking for a while why we been not allowed to have sex without marraige. i am a normal person living in now a days society where having sex is not a big deal so how can i control myself. And if u said that y not get married then answer is didnt able to find anyone i feel to spend my whole life with her. and dont believe to get married someone just for having sex.

common guys tell me answer of it. only logical answers please.

Answer 1

Don't listen to them....

1. When you have sex with someone you are not married to you have risks

a. STD
b. unplan/unwanted child
c. guilty conscience

2. You may not get any one these risk but you will have a past with this person

a. you may want a relationship and they may not
b. they may want a relationship and YOU may not
c. neither want a relationship and you both fell like trash

3. I am older than you and I am a virgin till marriage and your MATE FOR LIFE deserved this gift...Plain and Simple

Answer 2

In really general terms (not specific to a particular theology): In some religions and/or cultures, the sex act creates a "spiritual bond" that resembles ("consummates") marriage - particularly since sex was intended for procreation, and not recreation. Also, this bond isn't easily broken - the ending of the relationship doesn't necessarily end the bond. So, given that some religions and/or cultures frown upon adultery, premarital sex would (in essence) make both parties adulterers every time they indulge in the act with a new partner.

An alternate reason: some religions have specific tenets about "wasting your seed" which you could rationalize equating to not having sex at all unless one is trying to have a baby.

Oh yes, and then there's always the theory that your is a temple, and should be treated accordingly. Or that sex is a gift reserved solely for your spouse....etc.

Answer 3

Hi Azulfi!
Well, the truth is that having sex before getting married is allowed by the law. No one can make charges against you just for having sex before getting married.
But some religions says this is no a "pure" act, that it offends God, and things like that.
I share your opinion of not to get married someone just for having sex. It won't be real love.
The only advice I can give you is to follow your thoughts, even if those are influenced by your religion, by your friends, etc... and do what you think is the best for you, and to do what you wanna do. We have only one live and one opportunity of doing what we want.

Answer 4

For "logical" reasoning, you have to look at the social, cultural, and religious context involved. For the most part, edicts about "no sex before marriage" were about population and political control, as well as making men (and women) responsible for the inevitable consequences of sex (ie, offspring). It most likely also had benefits in reducing the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases in a time where people didn't understand the details of how such infections occurred.

In the past where men and women married young, the "waiting until marriage" would have only been a few years into adolescence and sexual maturity. While attributed to being "out of respect of/for women", it was more likely that marriage was seen as a way to make men socially, culturally, and legally responsible for caring for women and their offspring. For women, the policy against premarital sex was more politically motivated. If a woman was a virgin when she married, then a man (and the community) could insure that all offspring of the union were his (in theory anyways). This also has grounds in evolutionary biology, since many animal species are known to kill the offspring of sexual rivals within social groups. In modern times, people are waiting longer before marrying - and this means that directives against premarital sex have the potential for being unrealistic in terms of the human condition. My opinion, social and cultural factors aside, is that 25 is probably long enough to wait.

This is not saying you should behave irresponsibly. Do your research, take precautions against unwanted pregnancies, and be aware of STDs and their prevention. Most importantly, treat any prospective partners with the same respect you want.

Answer 5

I would like to help you more but I myself am an atheist all I can tell you that I'm a virgin too. It is obviously not out of religious reasons I just didn't find anyone yet with whom I would like to go to that level. I think sex is about intimacy and even though I can't understand your beliefs fully I would just advise you to decide what you want. If you want to have sex than you should I always thought that to be religious meant to also believe in the traditions you follow and if you don't I think it's pointless to keep them up ony because of some sort of feeling of duty.

Answer 6

I have to say that if you want to have sex before marriage there is nothing wrong with it as long as you use protection

I know plenty of Catholics and Muslims that have and do and they are still true to their faith just because you break a few minor rules doesn't mean you are not a good law abiding Muslim

Religion is all about beliefs and what YOU believe in

As long as you are true to yourself and use your religion as a guideline to a good life then what does it matter if you break a few rules

I apologise if I have offended anyone by saying this but it is my view

Good luck

Answer 7

First off congratulations on your achievement! Sex is a very touchy subject, and many times people take it all too lightly. However, consider this. A large percentage of marriages fail because of infidelity. Sex is one of the leading offenders for failed marriages! Even though we live in a society where sex is practically everywhere in the media, we have to remember that it is the upmost sanctity of who we really are. Of course we can spread ourselves around and contribute to the age of diseases, or human population, and in the end we will be left empty, because sex is just an act, but making love with the love of your life is a heavenly experience. Save yourself. Save yourself for her. Then if she asks you if you had ever been with anybody, you can avoid the complications of having to deal with such a touchy issue. It'll be the greatest wedding give you can give eachother and yourself! Good luck! Nurture Love and Share it!

Answer 8

Many religions have the rules they do simply to control their followers...sex only after marriage started long ago, so the paternity of the children would be known...that's basically it...now that there is DNA testing and countless forms of birth control, it's a moot point...but many religions still preach it, because it's a way of controlling their followers and because changing the rules now, after hundreds of years, would leave people wondering why their 'god' all of the sudden was giving the okay...they can't have people questioning them (the church lawmakers) or their 'god'...that leads to thinking, and thinking leads to more questions, and more questions lead to people finding answers (or figuring out for themselves) that they've been lied to all their lives...

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I think that when these rules were made, a man was normally married at a much younger age. Furthermore, in many situations, a man was allowed to have as many wives as he could afford. So, if you take the historical context into account, what is left is that you should wait until you are older, if not necessarily married. 25 is probably old enough.
Good luck.

Answer 11

Religion restricts it because religion is all about control. The more rules the better. A lot of them are great (don't kill, steal,...) but others are just to maintain structure. I think it is important to have an intimate relationship before marriage. Otherwise you can wind up in an unsatisfactory long term relationship.