What can I do?

Question

My father is diagnosed with advance lung cancer, and my mother cries everyday. What can I do to cheer them up? Also I want to know where can I find some kind of Chinese support group that helps people coping with illness in New York City.

Answer 1

try reading the book "I Love you Kate" by Juli Norris. also read "The Secret Journal of Brett Colton" by Kay Lynn Mangum. they're about losing loved ones.

help them out. cry with them. let them feel your empathy. unless you obtain some crazy magic power within the next couple months, there's nothing PHYSICALLY that you can do. tell your father you love him, repeatedly, and show it. listen when he talks and show him how you care. you can't blame your mom for crying. her soul mate is wasting away. you can help her out with kind words too. and if she gets frusterated and starts yelling or freaking out, don't get mad and defensive. kind of go with the flow and help her calm down. get her a drink, clean up a bathroom, shower her with compliments. it all comes down to being Christ-like in our words and actions. just love her. you'll see your father again when he dies. you'll see him after you die. it's not the end. there's always something following. so smile and make the world brighter, although loosing a loved one may be hard. be there for them. always. and i hope he can and will get better


and if you want to know about a Chinese support group in New York City, try going here:

http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/wtc/wtc-resource.pdf

http://www.wehealny.org/donate/fundLICH.html

i hope that i was helpful; take my advice and be happy! :)

Answer 2

I am 84 years old Chinese man, suffering from cancer of blood for last more than seven years. I am not afraid to die, to go to Heaven to see my Savior Lord Jesus Christ. Please go with your mother to Christian church to see a pastor. There are many Chinese church in New York area.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!

Please email me if possible: [e-mail], if any questions.

Answer 3

now i cant tell you about the chinese support group in new york cause i dont live there but i can tell you how to cheer them up.you could tak ethem to a movie ,go to a museum,or you could find out more info and his illness andshare it with him and find out how he could exercise or eat better to help make him progess w/ his illness.hope he gets beter!!!!!!!(when go to the movies or museum you just want to take your mom that away she could spend time with you and talk to you about her feelings or she could she a shrink mto express her feelings maybe she wont cry no more)again sorry hes sick hope he gets better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!