What do I do? Depressed.?

Question

My family was forced to sell our house due to problems beyond my control 3 years ago and I am still heartbroken over it. I lived my entire life up until then in that house. I was to inherit it when my parents passed someday..and now its gone forever. All I have are memories. Holidays come and they don't feel like holidays anymore because I am not at home. My family fell apart which is the main reason the house is gone so not only did I lose my house but my family all went seperate ways..so everything has changed. I can't stand it. It's really hard to deal with for me, because up until then I lead a very happy carefree life. Now I am just incredibly sad and miserable..and no one knows either. I thought after a few years I would be ok, but now I feel worse. What should I do?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, I know that if I had to move I would be sad too cus I have lived my entire life in my house also. I think talking is a good sign, cus it always helps to talk to people, and maybe it is easier to talk to us becuase you don't know us so we won't be biased. I think you should talk to someone with a bit more professional knowledge on the subject of feeling down and depressed. The split of your family has ultimately caused this problem and I'm sure you can be feeling good again. My parents divorced and had a nasty split, but I've seen the good side to it - now I have a bigger family and my parents are happier. If this isn't the case for you, then like I said, talking to a pro would be best. Good Luck. xxx

Answer 2

You must look to the future. The past will not help you in healing. It was beyond your control, you admitted this. Holding on to your emotional baggage will only make thing worse. You may need to talk to a professional. Perhaps you should look at the house as, just a house. You also have the opportunity to make a new home for yourself. When you get older buy a house and make it into what you lost. Who knows, by the time your ready to buy a house, your old one may be for sale.

Talk to your parents. Perhaps they can help.

No matter how bad you think you have it, there is always someone worse off.

I hope you find peace with this chapter in your life.

Good luck.

Answer 3

The house is a symbol to you now. It is a symbol of when you had your family together and when you felt the happiest (assuming). It's where you were when you life experienced it's greatest trauma. Trauma...makes memories more vivid. As humans we tend to take mental snapshots of the place we are when trauma hits us.

My parents divorced when I was 4 and I moved far away from the house where we had lived. I never saw my mother again after that for she had abandoned us to our father. That house always remained in my mind - memories so vivid, the door, the basement, my bookshelf in my room, the slope in the back yard....I went back YEARS later when I was an adult.

I had envisioned it much more beautiful and majestic then it actually was in reality. In kind of cured me. Sad but true.

It's just a house. What is most important right now is the love in your life - your relationships - try to heal from this trauma - and the house will no longer be on your mind.

Answer 4

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. We can’t move back in time an fix things unfortunately so we have to move forward.
There have been a few Christmases that I was hundreds of miles away and unable to get home. The first one I spent alone in my apartment, ate mac and cheese, and was REALLY depressed.
The next time I decided that I wasn’t going to be depressed because there were many people out there that was having a worse Christmas than me. I got involved in a local toy drive and handed out presents to underprivileged kids and then served food to the homeless in a soup kitchen on Christmas day.
Another time I knew for sometime that I wasn’t going to be home so I spent the whole year buying toys when I had extra money. On Christmas day I went to the burn unit of a local children’s hospital and gave them all away. It was one of the best Christmases I’ve ever had.
Focus on helping others and you will feel too good to be depressed!

Answer 5

It is very sad that your family is no longer living together in your childhood home. That is a lot for anyone to handle alone. Are you still in School? Please try to contact your counselor if you are in school or seek help from a therapist. If you do not have money, there are places you can go that are free to no or low income people. It has been a lot of change all at once for you and too hard for anyone to deal with all alone. You seem like a person who has it all together, you just need a little help dealing with the upheaval in you life. Please talk with someone even a friend might help . Lots of prayers to you .

Answer 6

Well i can tell you in one word why it happend.....LIFE....I cant say i know how you feel cause i never had a stable environment much less family, but i do know that everything happends for a reason....take a look at the big picture...what if that house was going to stand in the way of your destiny...There is only one person, spirit that can tell you and that is God! I'm sorry that you are feeling bad, but down the road it will be reveiled why it happend....for your life.....you need to keep the memories and move on....its not healthy to dwell in the past....there is one thing i know for sure.....you cant change the past but you can shape the future...goodluck

Answer 7

Im very sorry for your house and seperation of your family. If it was me i would try to talk to someone (which you really should do). It is not good to keep things in like this. Talking to someone will make you feel sooo much better. And another positive you will always make new memories. So invite some friends over and have a slumber party or movie night!

Answer 8

Im sorry you are feeling this way. This has also happened to me earlier on in life,,,,,but i do believe i was depressed for other reasons and just didnt know it and the move only exaggerated it. In a way we need to just try to accept it and adjust. What else can you do? You can't undo the past, only try to accept it and move on. I know it is difficult, but u will find happiness again. Maybe getting some therapy will help too.

good luck to u.

Answer 9

First of all. you have to realise how olkd you would have been before u got that house even if your parents still had it. The only way your gonna be happy again is stop thinking about what you have lost and what you have now or what you might have when u get married.

Answer 10

listen i feel your pain and let me be blunt as possible when i say that DWELLING IN THE PAST IS FUTILE!!!! i understand that your life just got totally messed up out of the blue but its like you said you couldnt do anything about it so get over it for it is inevitable to change the past so dont worry about it. you also said that you lead a care free life up to the incident so why stop now!? live for now and f the past because you only live once and life has no space for depression. it is you who has to be the light at the end of the tunnel for your family. look my father died and i only mourned him for one day and i liked the guy alot! EVERYONE says i have no heart but look all those who mourned his death endlessly have sucky lives while im skydiving at altitudes that freeze your pubic hairs!