making out? My son had his girlfriend over to watch a movie, and I went upstairs for about 15 minutes. When I came downstairs, he was making out with her, and they both were really into it... Is this normal, or should I do something?
2006-12-11 10:10:02 · 45 answers · asked by Jennifer L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think he noticed I was there either
2006-12-11 10:10:23 · update #1
They've been going out for around 8 months
2006-12-11 10:13:55 · update #2
The young people here will tell you that it is normal. Sex is becoming a normal thing for young people of that age and even younger. That does not make it right. It is up to you to set the standards for your children. When you start making out it is hard to stop before it gets out of hand and they are too young to think anything would happen to them (it only happens to other people not me syndrome) and that is how 13 and 14 year olds are becoming parents nowadays. I believe 13 is to young to even date and should not be started before the age of 16 when you are more mature to make wise decisions. It is really your choice as he is still young and he should have rules to live by.☺
2006-12-11 10:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal, no he probably did not notice you
Make sure you talk to them about sex. Don't just tell them not to do it, but explain that his girlfriend can get pregnant even after the first time, or about condoms, and STDs.
I realize they are only 13, but some people have sex even at that age. If they want to do it they will find a way no matter what you say, so I'm sure you would rather have them do it safe than not safe.
Communication is the key. Maybe you should even talk to her parents and see what they think about this whole situation.
Your son is growing up and it is your responsibility to teach him about sex and respect. You will gain in the long run.
2006-12-11 10:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 13 is too young to be making out.
I am almost 26...I live in an apartment complex full of teenage boys who are 13, 14, and 15. They are so incredibly immature that I cannot imagine any girl would want to make out with any of them. That also goes for the girls, too. I went to see "Deja Vu" last weekend and there were about 6 teenage boys and girls sitting in front of me, and I couldn't believe how immature all 6 of them were being. It makes me wonder if I was that stupid when I was a teenager!
2006-12-11 10:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on how far they went.
Were they watching this movie in the living room?
Then I seriously doubt they would have done anything more than just making out, know what I mean?
Unless you saw your son taking his girlfriend to his bedroom a few moments later of course...
Then, and only then, should you start worrying...
Does your son know all there is to know about birth control?
For your sake and his, I hope he does!
Just follow your gut instinct and define what your comfort zone is.
And make your son aware what your comfort zone is.
After all, this is YOUR house, not his!
At the end of the day, it`s a question of RESPECT.
2006-12-11 10:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about pregnancy and birth control. If hes making out with her know I'm pretty sure their is not much you can do. If you did he would probably just go some where else and make out with her there. The best thing you could do is educate him about pregnancy, because it seems that sex is in his mind. It would be a good idea for the girl and her parents to do the same.
2006-12-11 10:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a little young, but it happens at different times for everyone, just explain some ground rules, and make sure it doesn't go farther. If you hold him back totally, things may backfire.
This may be a good time for the "birds and the bees" talk.
Good Luck!!
You're lucky they waited 8 months!
2006-12-11 10:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it in the perspective of the mother of the young girl ur son is making out with!
They are gonna do it regardless, but u should still step in and let them know that they may be going to far.
2006-12-11 10:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by sublimeguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too young. i think teenagers should wait until theyre at least 16 before they even kiss. i mean 13, thats still a baby and they are not ready to learn about the real world yet. have a talk with your son about the facts of life.
2006-12-11 10:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by justin a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are too young, that's one of the reasons that teen pregnancy, is so high. As a mother, I can't believe you didn't make an effort to stop them, that's like telling them, it's ok to have sex, in "your house". How can you ask us, if you should do something, don't you think you should have done something, when you caught them in the act?
2006-12-11 10:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jennifer, I kissed my first girl at 12. Kissing at a young age leads to petting and sexual intercourse. Kissing is ok as long as it doesn't go farther then this. Teenagers are hard to control. Just talk to your son about the birds and the bee's. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-11 10:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋