Here's my little craptacular problem: I met this guy through a friend last January. He ASKED me to "be something more" to him after talking on the phone for about a month. I thought I was his gf in the beginning, but because of his "attitude" towards me( he was just a horny SOB), I realized I wasn't (thank goodness I never slept with him!), but we decided to be friends still. Still hung out with him, until I decided I didn't want to see him anymore.<<
Fast forward...
I haven't seen him since last year. We DO keep in touch (occasionally) through IM. Sad part about this is, I have feelings for him (always did), yet I mask them because of what happened between us before. Mind you all, I have a hunch that he likes me, but I dunno exaclty how--if it's real or he's just suffering from blue balls.
I told what I wanted before, yet he still talks to me (and I sadly, to him). What should I do? State my true feelings (again) or just let it go?
2006-12-11 10:09:28 · 11 answers · asked by keyonnaw5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just FYI--He's 21 and I'm 20.
2006-12-11 10:10:36 · update #1
You're in a hard situation. My best friend is going through this right now. I will tell you what I told her. You MUST keep reminding him or what you want out of the relationship and what he WONT be getting. Do NOT sleep with him. You had the sense and the respect to shy away from it the first time around (BRAVO!!!!!) and he needs to know that just cause you two have history you are not his ace in the whole for a quick lay.
If you truely do have feelings for him and you want to try for a relationship.. By all means go for it. You have more background and knowledge on him then probably anyone else you are looking into. Especially after so much time investment. You should be pretty well equiped to know if there is a chance that a relationship with him will go the way you want it to.
You really sound like you have your thoughts together on this one. Your eyes are open and you understand the potential set up you are walking into. Unlike a lot of the questions I have seen on here. So follow your head and be as blunt as possible. He might think you are saying yes when you mean maybe, but the more upfront and steady you are in your answers the better of you will both be.
Stick to your guns and go for some fun too. With a little luck he has matured in the past year and you two can really have a great time together.
Good luck..
PS. My friend has stuck with the No Sex policy and her and him are STILL dating and seem to be working it out. He has made his plays for it, but I think he has more of an appreciation for her and longing being as he hasnt gotten anything yet... So if they are the example it can work :)
2006-12-11 10:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM with the guy. If you feel like he's grown up some, give him another chance. You sound like you've got your act together more than he does, make sure you tell him directly and up front that you aren't wanting the horndog he was last year.
You have the right to have a guy you want. If he's not it, then maybe you need to move on.... or up.
2006-12-11 10:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was recently in this position but I'm 21 and the guy is 42.Move on.He will end up hurting you in the end.He will say whatever he can to make sure he gets you and making you believe that he loves you and wants to be with you and only you.If he cheated or lied once he will do it again.
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2016-09-03 08:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
na hes missed out on something good first time round, dont let him get the better of you, you will find some1 that will treat you the way that you want to be treated. hes that the 1 that blew it not you, and if you give him the benifit of the doubt then that will just make him think that he can do this to you all the time, get ahead while you can.
2006-12-11 10:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie always be true to yourself. If you just give in you are essentally giving into something that may not be right for you. If he really has any kind of feelings for you he will wait if he sneeks off again, I think you have your answer.
Much Luck!
2006-12-11 10:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number and if you still feel for him tell him it may work it may not i had to and so far its working but maybe it will go further!!i hope the best for you!!
2006-12-11 10:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man. i'd tell him i wanted to go out to lunch, and meet with him. tell him EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL, and see what he says. then, tell him that you want to wait to sleep together until ur married (weather u do or not....) and see what he says. if he's willing to wait for you then he's really fallen for you. if not, he's just out for sex.
2006-12-11 10:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you want to even be friends with him.
2006-12-11 10:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him go, there are plenty of guys out there. be patient and it will be worth it.
2006-12-11 10:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by slapshot2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋