my bf and i have been together for 4 years and we both see us together for a long time however the other night we got into a fight about just little things and he got so angry he grabbed the scarf i was wearing and started choking me. i told him to stop and he wouldnt until i had to struggle to get away from him. hes never ever ever been like that before or ever hurt me in anyway and promised that it wouldnt happen again but at what point do you draw the line? I really think what he did was wrong and i dont want a relationship like that at all but im having a hard time because it was way out of his character. Im nervous because i dont want it to happen again and i dont want to let go of him if it was just a one time mistake that happened during an argument. should i forgive and just keep it in mind or let him go on his way
2006-12-11 10:09:04 · 6 answers · asked by lonelyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will happen again. A classic abuser will be so apologetic that you will believe he is telling the truth but he's not. Run sister and don't look back please.
2006-12-11 10:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ring Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep an eye on him don't let him go quite yet like you said it could just be a one time thing. Now if he does it again you need to leave its fair enough to give a chance but 2 is to many value yourself and know that he was wrong and let him know he cant treat you that way no matter how long you have been together, or how drunk, or high what ever the reason is don't give him excuses you only hurt yourself.
2006-12-11 10:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do NOT stay with him. If he is acting like that before you are even married then forget it!
He obviously doesn't have enough respect for YOU or even women to be in a relationship right now. He needs to go to a counselor and get help fast.
I'm sure he seems so sorry and so sad about what he did, but it WILL happen again. and it will probably be more frequent.
NEVER EVER BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THAT MAKES YOU FEAR FOR YOUR SAFETY!!! and that you don't feel safe around. EVER.
Respect yourself enough to let him go and find someone who treats you like a queen.
2006-12-11 10:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Phatstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very important that you forgive your boyfriend. At the same time I think that you should also let him go.
Forgiving him without leaving sets both of you up for further pain, you by possibly being abused again and him by losing control of himself and abusing somebody that he loves.
2006-12-11 10:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Poot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving is one great virtue but learning a lesson from your mistakes is one great policy in life,,its ok to forgive him but if you wanna make sure hell never do it again to you then you better start checking out his pass life he might have pass experiences that cause him to become very violent when mad,dont let this thing pass by,,,try to know him better
2006-12-11 10:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the scarf and tell him its a farewell present. his anger management issues are not your problem. get out.
2006-12-11 10:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋