ive been single for years
been shot down many times... realy hurts
i will find a girl "when i least expect it"... everyone tells me
why would that make any diffrence?
isnt it less likely that i will meet girls cos im "not looking"?
the boys almost always do the asking out right!
and
do you think it is imoral for people to tell me that;
...as no one knows what will happen in the future?
thanx in advance
JSJ
2006-12-11 10:04:47 · 20 answers · asked by jimmystraightjacket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i`m a girl & i`m in thee exact same situation.
i wanna hear some answers, please(=
2006-12-11 10:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, I've been single all my life, so I'm not the one to tell you this, but it's true. When you look for love you get into a rush of things and want things to happen, but it only goes for the badly. That is why others have told you to not look for it and let it find you. Trust me I've been down that road many, many times. Now, I'm just picking up the pieces and trying to do my own thing for a while then see where life takes me. Anyway, as for your other questions, it's not meant to say that you don't look at girls. It could be you walking into a store and then next thing you know you spotted a girl. You really don't know what is in store for the future. That's the beauty of life. You just live it and whatever happens, happens for a reason. If you were meant to be with someone you will be with someone. Just be patient and your time will come to find the right person. Maybe you just need to live your life right now and will fall in love later. Good luck and hope I helped. Sorry, if I wasn't much help, but that is what I've learned over the years.
2006-12-11 18:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by just another girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true no one knows the future, but the "when you least expect it" line comes from the fact that when we are actively seeking a mate we tend to either make poor choices or over-analyze every potential one and reject them for crazy reasons...
When you stop looking, are happy with your life, get involved in things you like to do, and just really don't care a whole lot if you have a partner or not, seems to be the times that Life leads someone to cross our path, who is a good match...
When we're not all about the boy/girlfriend hunt, we'll typically have more opportunities and options than we know what do to with...maybe because our confidence is higher and we don't scare them away with that "i need wo/man" desperation...
2006-12-11 18:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take and give this advice to others and myself to mean:
goout enjoy life do as many fun things as possible chat at every opertunity to people male and female the more people you meet the more chance of meeting that someone special
If you are concentrating on scoring every time you go out or are hung up on the fact that you are'nt scoring you will get caught up in the "Poor me" syndrome which makes people turned off you, if you appear a happy wel adjusted sociable person then it will happen in it's own good time I swear by it!!
2006-12-11 18:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it usually happens when your not trying to pull because you allow girls to see the real you warts and all. And like wise the other way, so you both get too know each other properly and thats a good start to any relationship. Is it imoral, no its probably the truth, they see you trying and maybe your trying to hard. As you say no-one knows the future so sit back relax and see what life throws at you...its easier than chasing it!
2006-12-11 18:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by xray_daddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They tell you these things because they are true. Most times the best relationships are the ones formed through friendship or chance meetings. If you look to hard you may miss what is right in front of you.
2006-12-11 18:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe this to be true because when we aren't actively looking for someone, I think we are more happier within ourselves and it comes across to other people. When you are actively looking for a relationship, there can be a hint of desperation that the opposite sex can detect from a mile away.
2006-12-11 18:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Danru 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be detached. Also you need to be ready, that is you need to work on yourself & when you're happy & confident, you'll be more attractive to the opposite sex! maybe read The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz (I have a copy I don't want I could send it 2 you!!)
2006-12-11 18:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by glgl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while we dont know what will happen in the future its happened too many times to be ignored --- while you are not looking at every lady as a possible mate someone will come up to you or you see each other somewhere and its all over -- you know you are meant for each other
2006-12-11 18:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you built it she will come your female robot meep meep but when you are not acting desperate to find love - that is when it will happen for you be strong she is just around the corner looking for love too could it be you
2006-12-11 18:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl will come when she comes.
You can't just go up to every girl u
kno and like and say:
"I really like you will you go out with me?"
or
"I really wanna start seeing eachother,wanna go out?"
Nope.Doesn't work that way.You have to know the girl,like you have met her b4.And if u EVER act like a jerk,you won't find ne1.But your girl will come when she finds you.You might find her soon.Give it time,hun.These kind of things take time.
*Good Luck*!
2006-12-11 18:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by Whitney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋