To The Women!?

Question

I'm just wondering how many out there have a hard time ending a relationship...even when you know that the guy isn't acting right or treating you like you deserve to be treated? As ashamed as it makes me to say this, i've found that this is the case with me. I will stay in a relationship just because I want it to work so bad and don't want to have to deal with another failed relationship. What has happened in the past, is that I try to make it work and then i'm the one that ends up getting dumped. I try to give my all to my serious relationships but it doesnt seem to be going well and I end up with someone that does right in the very beginning but then later begins to show their true colors. For those of you that know how to say NEXT to a guy that you know isn't doing right, whats your secret? How do I make it easier for me to end a relationship that I know is going nowhere?

Answer 1

I ended a 6 year relationship only 6 months ago and it was definatly the hardest thing i've ever done. I knew that the guy wasn't treating me right, i wasnt happy and i knew that it wasn't going anywhere but that didn't excuse the fact that it was so very hard.

After I did it, i knew it was the best thing for both of us and for awhile i even felt like id done the wrong thing but you just have to tell yourself that if you aren't feeling right about something in a relationship and you feel its going nowhere, then you have to end it for the good of both of you.

There's no easy way to approach a situation like this - you just have to think about the future and no that's its YOUR life and that you only get one life. You have to do what's best for you.

As for approach method - just don't beat around the bush and be upfront and honest! All in all, when you are breaking up with someone, it doesnt matter how you do it because when it comes down to it - your still breaking up with them.

Answer 2

You must realize that you are worth so much and deserve exactly what you give. If he does not see that about you....there is nothing you can do to make him see it. You must be strong and move on. You don't even have to call him to end it. Just stop calling him. He will probably not call you anytime soon anyways so in that time....you need to get strong and focus on yourself. He will eventually call you....but don't try to fake yourself out and think that he finally misses you and wants you back. He's just calling to see why you stopped chasing and bugging him. You left him wondering why all of a sudden you disappeared. He will automatically assume that you have found someone else and may act as if you are still important to him.....but don't be fooled. That will be his ego thinking he is being threatend by another male. When he finally does come looking for you and asking all these questions....your job is to be coy. Neither deny or confirm his suspicions or accusations. You just say that you are tired of being in an unhealthy relationship and with that....start saying your goodbyes and wish him well. (if he tries to keep the conversation going....you just try your best to end it....say you have to go and apologize)

Answer 3

When I was younger, I was a lot more likely to "stick it out" and try to make it work...or just hang in there to keep from being "alone"...

Now, I've grown up and matured quite a bit, and at 41 I don't put up with much bullsh*t...if it's not working, I'll get with him and see if we can fix it...if not, then it's "SEE YA!"

This life is too short to waste it on something that's not working...and if the effort has been made to make it right then I can let go with a clear conscience, and give both he and I the opportunity to either find a more suitable match, or be happier alone than we were together...

Answer 4

it sounds overly simple, but it all comes down to self respect. If you believe that there are a million right people out there for you - because you're an amazing person, then one that doesn't treat you as you want to be treated will be easy to explain why it's just not what you're looking for.

I truly believe there are many people each of us can be extremely happy with, so there's no reason to stay when you're not feeling the respect you deserve.

Answer 5

What gives me the courage to say NEXT is believing in myself am I better off being single or being with this A Hole and when I realize that I dump him and feel much better that I am not in another crappy relationship and know that someday I will find someone better what is his loss is my gain to a better loving person that is on his way I know it and you will feel better too so take out the trash and know you deserve better !

Answer 6

First of all, I think you should try and get yourself together first. I believe that if you were comfortable with yourself you wouldn't be attracting the "same" type of men, then you wouldn't have to try and "fix" an already jacked up relationship. I say this because I'm speaking from experience. Everything starts with you first. Hope this helps

Answer 7

Be strong i was the same until a while ago
I just kept telling myself there is a nice guy out there somewhere for me, and I'm not putting up with no more.
I'm even more happier now than when i was with my ex.

Get to know the guy FIRST!!

Answer 8

OMG you look at the last question i just asked im in a predicament about a relationship myself

Answer 9

I am in the same boat.. I have decided to do more for myself. Take trips and socialize a little more with friends

Answer 10

first of all im sorry it didnt work out!umm i think you just need to tell him and ask if he agree's with you.