My daughter is 15 years old. and she been dating 18 yr old guys and having sex with them. + what should i do?
2006-12-11 09:38:55 · 29 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Video tape it.
RJ
2006-12-11 09:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Reverend Jank 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, make sure she is on birth control since she is already having sex. If he's 18 and she's 15, then this is rape. She is a minor and what he is doing is illegal! Report him to the police immediately!
Secondly, why are you letting your 15 year old daughter date 18 year old guys and how are they allowed alone time to even have sex?
Third, you need to talk to her about why she's having sex? Does she want attention? Maybe it's a self esteem problem.
Fourth, she needs to be checked to make sure he has no STD's or is pregnant! Better supervision is a MUST!
2006-12-11 09:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by grlugo 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concern about her and her well being, she is too young to be with those 18 year olds. I may suggest having law enforcement know who these 18 year olds are and they can be charged with statutory rape under some states in the USA, but in Canada it is a different story which we need to update our law here too. Something tells me she is going to parties where these 18 year olds are at. It is time to get your daughter to be at home more often making sure she at home with you more often. I suspect she has become rebellious, but need to be informed about the bird and the bees and the consequences, and time to teach those adults a lesson about the consequences on picking up underage girls.
2006-12-11 09:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stop her, lock her away she will find a way out. Baby sit someones baby that you know and trust. then make her take care of the baby change diapers feedings in the middle of the night, and so on. Make sure you do not help unless necessary. She will get the idea, hopefully. then take her to a hospice for people with aids or a STD clinic. tell her about the harm she can cause herself and explain to her about protection. If you cannot communicate with her take her to the family doctor and ask for help. Good luck.
2006-12-11 09:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by angela s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 when I was doing it I would just explain to her how hard mother hood is and tell her to make sure she knows what she's doing. And get her put on birth control if she's not already. I know from experience that if you try to stop her then it's going to make it worse and she'll do it unprotected and everything else just to "show you" that she's gonna do it weather you want her to or not. Try to build a mother-daughter friendship with her so she can trust you enough to talk about it so at least you will know what is going on with her.
2006-12-11 09:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be too draconian - she will misbehave to spite you if you are. I think the most important thing is that you ensure that she is having safe sex, if fully educated about STIs etc. and tell her that she should never feel pressurised to have sex with someone. I am not sure where you are from, but I would also recommend to her that you explain any legal ramifications of her sexual relationships.
2006-12-11 09:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by bovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her.
Let her know it is not OK with you for her to be doing such things. Set the rules down and respect that she has made such choices, but let her know in no uncertain terms that the rules of your house are to not do these things.
Tell her what the consequences are for breaking them and being caught.
She may not like it, but years from now she will respect you for your choices as a parent.
2006-12-11 09:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by moudoku 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to stop this, the only thing you can do is educate her......leave things in her room that will educate her, tell her you trust her and want her to be safe.....You show that you can be a supportive friend in this situation and she will start listening to you in a way you never thought possible. Remember, 3 years is no big deal, it's just emotionally she'll need the support. good luck, Jack
2006-12-11 09:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your avatar says you're "16",and you have a 15 year old daughter?
Wild imagination huh?
2006-12-11 09:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her but don't yell , fight, or stop her from seeing this guy because she's gonna hate u for life !
You can dig into her boyfriend's dirty secrets and have her friend exposed them to your daughter. She'll probably dump him in a heartbeat and runs back to mommy and daddy.
Just an idea... hope this helps...
2006-12-11 09:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Evelyne M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No advice as I have no kids yet, but man that would Pi$$ me off.
If there is a chance you can put an end to it, for her sake, I would explore that further! Youth was meant for the Young!
2006-12-11 09:43:43 · answer #11 · answered by Rodney J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋