2006-12-11 09:28:43 · 17 answers · asked by be real 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry to hear about your relationship. It must be extremely hard to deal with. As of right now, I am not married, but in my past relationship I've had an bad experience of being deceived.
I cannot say that I know what you are going through physically and emotionally, but I may have an idea.
Being in the state of depression is always hard. The only person who can cure themselves for being depressed is yourself.
It also depends if your wife is still in the picture or if you are not currently together.
My best advice I can offer you is that you need to face the problem. Once you face it, see if you are able to forgive and move on with your wife or sometimes it maybe too hard to comprehend, and the damage is already done.
If you still want to stay with her, then I recommend you seeing a therapist. One for yourself, and another for you and your wife.
After, I found out the devasting news of my other half not being quite faithful I was terribly heartbroken. In a nutshell, he told me that he would never lie to me again, and yada yada yada... He lied, again. One, too many times. I left him after many years. I was extremely depressed for awhile, but I eventually overcame it by not blaming myself for his mistakes. I came to the realization, that he is the one with the problems, and that I did not need someone like that in my life.
I guess it was a life lesson to be learned.
From that experience alone, I became a lot stronger and wiser on how to deal with my problems.
I too, hope that someday you can see this as a life lesson, and eventually grow from this messy ordeal.
Good luck, I truly wish the best for you.
2006-12-11 09:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by healthnut 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that. I have been cheated on too, so i know exactly how it feels. it does take time to get over this, alho there always will be "a bitter taste on your tongue". As someone already told you, once is a mistake, twice is a choice. If she did it for the first time and really regrets that, try to forgive her. she must understand, it is hard for you and should put up with the consequences.If you love her, you will get together over that. Sometimes people do this and they really regret. it can happen to everyone, and it doesnt have to mean she doesnt love you or respect you.People do make mistakes.If she will do it again, i advice you to leave her, because then it is obvious disrespect. But dont do the same mistake as she did, do not cheat on her as a revange, you will make things just worse.
2006-12-11 17:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something good. Forgive her, for one - even if you don't intend to stay with her. What is the point of being poisoned by your anger and disappointment for a long time? Chalk up the experience, and move on with your life. Make some new friends or do some new things.
2006-12-11 17:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by twicewise 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry.
Do not go out and cheat to punish her. You are only lowering yourself to her level. You are the bigger person here.
If you want to save the marriage then seek professional help. A good counselor will help you.
2006-12-11 17:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by kherome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not love you, she does not have any respect towards you.
But sometimes there are wives who try for one time to see what "cheating" means.
I hope she is the one who tried it for one time, and she saw it's not worth to be involved in such affairs.
If she repeats it for a second time, so there is no doubt she doesn't love you. Get rid of her.
2006-12-11 17:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Suzan K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turn to your friends and family for support. stay busy....if someone invites you out to go do something....go do it! even if you're not up to it.It's always better than to be alone and not have anything to do. Make a big change in your life.Do something that you have always wanted to do but were always afraid to do it or you felt you had no time for it. You have the time now so go start it!
2006-12-11 17:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real answer. Talk with your wife and maybe see a marriage therapist.
2006-12-11 17:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is so devastating, when someone you love does this to you...about the only thing you CAN do is this ...if you are a man who believes in God, and Jesus, then you know, that you could divorce her, because adultry is considered the one sin that is worthy of divorce...but then again,...you can also remember that we have to forgive others, or God will not forgive us...and that is His word...so you can try to be honest with yourself, and let 'those with out sin cast the first stone' at her...and forgive her, and witness to her and tell her just why you are forgiving her, in Jesus's name, and for your Father...or, you can forgive her, and leave her...regardless...time is the only thing that will take away the pain and mistrust..but giving it to the Lord to handle for you, will take some of the burden and grief away, I promise...
2006-12-11 17:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pack her bags and drop them off at her lovers house. Have your locks changed. Sign up on Match.com.
Good Luck!
2006-12-11 17:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
night on the town with the boys....
you will need to consume many drinks...and frequent many strip clubs...
you need to get even with your wife...so stead of having relations wit one woman...have relations with 2 women at the same time
2006-12-11 17:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by biffnasty 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋