We've been going out for a long time and our communition is great, we talk about our problems and all. I have no problem saying no to him when it comes to sex. but since we stared doing it more and talking about it. He keeps thinking we'll do it EVERYDAY. i say no at times, but when its a no, he acts really playfully and flirty. why does he act like that when i tell him no, and why does he always ask for it now?? thanks
2006-12-11 09:19:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-11 09:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinysusan 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Well he needs to understand that while he might be able to go every night three times, your parts are a little more, er, sensitive about that sort of thing... I think its great that he is playful and flirty when you give him a "not tonight" so I am not sure why you think that is a problem. Would you rather he tell you to piss off and leave? Make it clear to him that you enjoy it but you dont want it every day and he needs to understand that, but at the same time you need to understand that he clearly likes doing that with you so maybe you find something else physical to do to keep him satisfied...
2006-12-11 17:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he acts playful and flirty because he's trying to win you over in hopes that you'll say yes. he may be asking everyday here lately because it's just a stage or something i was dating a guy that went through a phase where he wanted sex everyday for like 3 weeks and then we were back to a normal pattern so maybe it's just one of those times and you'll get back to a normal pattern soon but i'd give it a couple weeks and see.
2006-12-11 17:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say no, he needs to respect that and not try to "playfully" persuade you to give in. If he doesn't understand that you don't always want to do it, he's not a very good boyfriend.
Hopefully you guys do things other than have sex, haha...because if that's truly all he is concerned with, that's not a great sign either. Good luck!
2006-12-11 17:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in a relationship like this he never understood when I said no clearly because I didn't feel like it and he still tried to seduce me.
I broke up with him because I thought he didn't respect me when I told him I don't want to have sex with him.which was everyday. He didn't really want to to take me anywhere nothing fun just sex thats all he wanted. when he didn't get his way he would be all pissy about it after. I started to think that sex for him was the most important thing for him and that is how it turned out to be.
I don't know all I can say if you are not happy with the situation you are in then its time to break up and find you someone who is going to respect what you want.
Good Luck!
2006-12-11 17:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend obviously enjoys teasing you and winding you up, doesn`t he?
By your succinct story-telling, he seems like a sweet & lovable kinda guy, is that a fair assumption to make?
And by the way, why would you refuse his sexual advances?!?
I never say no to my boyfriend, even when I don`t really fancy it, I still let him have it!
How could I ever deny him & his overwhelmig sexual desires when he has got a massive erection in his pants that just will not go down?!?
Not a good way to keep him happy & satisfied, is it?
2006-12-11 17:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are just that damn good girl. but really maybe he thinks that your just joking around or he feels embrassed so he tries to get you in the mood and doesnt feel like such a d**k. Just tell him that you got all week to make up and it will be even better. but yes men just love sex really and thats all that it really comes down too. good luck
2006-12-11 17:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'VE HAD THE SAME PROBLEM BEFORE. SOMETIMES I AM JUST NOT IN THE MOOD FOR SEX. GUYS ARE DIFFERENT! IT'S LIKE HIS OBLIGATION TO ASK FOR IT AND TO TRY EVERYTHING! SO DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. IT'S JUST HOW IT IS! TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT- THAT'S THE BEST WAY TO SOLVE ANY ISSUES YOU HAVE! BUT YOU PROBABLY KNOW IT!
2006-12-11 17:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Stella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's flirty because he's still trying to get it and as to why he keeps asking it's because he knows if he asks, he'll usually get it.
2006-12-11 17:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply because your playing hard to get and we enjoy the chase.
2006-12-11 17:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just still tell him not the right timt but if he still dont listen move on
2006-12-11 17:23:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋